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5 September 2011

Ashya Wants More Than Sex

Sounds like you’ve been feeling that your relationship is missing some fundamental closeness that goes beyond sex, and that it has taken you some time to come to the conclusion ...

1 September 2011

Lauren feels responsible for her friend’s death

Lauren, you have been close to someone who you weren’t able to help, just when you feel you really needed to. There are many charities and support organisations aimed at ...

1 September 2011

Cate’s controlling boyfriend can’t stop checking on her

Long-distance relationships are always testing and they are particularly challenging if there are trust issues. In fact, I think it’s fair to say that unless you can both get to ...

1 September 2011

Elya’s parents aren’t supporting her new freelance career

First of all, be reassured that you really aren’t alone. More people than ever are being forced to move back in with the parents because of unemployment, repossessions or necessary ...

1 September 2011

Sandra’s guy hasn’t called as much since they got intimate

No one should excuse themselves for being emotional and it is accepted that at different times in our lives, we’ll go through highs and lows in terms of emotions. If ...

1 September 2011

Ruby’s guy let loose on her with verbal abuse

Obviously you’re worried about the reaction you’re going to get next time you see him and you want to come out on top or at least feeling better about yourself. ...

26 August 2011

Amanda’s well-endowed boyfriend doesn’t understand how much it hurts

Have you tried the obvious things like LOTS of foreplay, lube, oral on you, getting as wet as possible before he comes anywhere near you? You need to spend some ...

26 August 2011

Vanessa's Preganacy Dilemma

Firstly, focus on your health and wellbeing, not on guilt and worry. You have decided you want to carry these surprise twins because that's what feels right to you, and ...

26 August 2011

Shelly Worried About The Wedding Night

Golden rule - before your big day, talk about your big night with your husband. Make sure you're both on the same wave length about how important it is. Some ...

26 August 2011

Shelly wants some sexy secrets for her wedding night

Sibling rivalry is a very difficult one because the roots go back such a long way and without all of the history, it’s hard to know what you should do. ...

26 August 2011

Should Carrie come clean about falling for her ex?

You say he was out of a serious relationship, but you dated him for a year – which by a lot of people’s standards would be serious too. I think ...

26 August 2011

Jade's appetite for sex can't be met any more

You’ve got as far as writing in about this, and clearly it’s worrying you – and rightly so. It seems to have gone beyond not having sex, and it’s more ...

22 August 2011

Kris strugglign with sex after having baby

It’s okay, this is something that you WILL work out because you clearly want to and you clearly have a loving, understanding husband. The fact that you wish he would ...

22 August 2011

Nishu desperately wants to be interested in sex

Your situation isn’t really typical of many. A long-distance relationship for two years, without meeting the guy? Well, firstly, it’s probably quite natural that you don’t feel all that interested ...

22 August 2011

Flower’s ex keeps blowing hot and cold

This sounds like a really unacceptable situation – despite your own emotional needs not being met, you have your daughter’s wellbeing and self-esteem to protect, and her need to have ...

22 August 2011

Sian wants to stand up to her controlling friend

When you say this girl is a friend, and yet she’s making you feel put down and that you’re bad people, surely this must raise a question in your mind ...

15 August 2011

Sophie can’t get over being cyber-bullied by her boyfriend’s exes

You poor thing, you’ve not only become completely paranoid, searching for their photos on facebook (which, by the way, is fairly common behaviour I understand – aren’t we all a ...

15 August 2011

Rob wonders if two months is too soon to fall for his deceased partner’s sister.

Firstly, I’m very sorry that you have been through this difficult time. What I would like to say is to try to look at it as a positive thing that ...

15 August 2011

David doesn’t feel like a man because he can’t get his girlfriend to climax

David, just by the fact that you’re so concerned about being able to make her orgasm, we all know she’s a lucky lady. You’re obviously prepared to work hard at ...

15 August 2011

Dan’s HIV-positive girlfriend won’t talk straight with him

There are so many questions that are unanswered here, that it makes it difficult to see how honest your girlfriend has been with you. You’ve been together for four years ...

15 August 2011

Is Lara’s flirty work mate sincere or just playing with her?

I’m sure you’ve come across Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, by Dr John Gray? Well, it’s an accepted truth that men really don’t react well to subtle ...

15 August 2011

Kiwi’s long-term boyfriend won’t stop watching porn

I’m so sorry that you’re going through this and really regret that you’ve tried three times, in different ways, to tackle this issue, which is obviously painful for you. The ...

15 August 2011

Will Roxanne’s sexual abuse story will make her friend think she’s just a copycat?

While it’s important to get it out in the open for your own reasons and especially because there is someone in your family who has behaved criminally, stop and think ...

3 June 2011

Confused about whether or not I'm ready to have sex

You don't tell me how old you are but as you're thinking about having sex I'm going to assume you're over 16, the legal age. Usually, the rule goes that ...