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27 September 2011

Sarah Doesn’t Know If He’S Pulling Her Heartstrings

You’ve got a long-distance relationship but I don’t know how far apart you are or if you spent much time together before you were living in Scotland and England. If ...

27 September 2011

Summer Is Finding Long-Distance Makes Her Insecure

Long-distance relationships are really only healthy if you are very secure, content not to share every-day life together, and if you are both able to give each other the affection ...

27 September 2011

Ioa Doesn’t Want To Risk Her Friendship

If he’s up for a kiss as well, hasn’t he given you any signals that he’d quite like a kiss? It’s all very well you wanting to be with him ...

27 September 2011

Yasmin Is Ready To Throw It All In For Her Ex

Relationships that you’ve really invested can take years, not weeks to get over. So don’t think that just because you’re still feeling bruised about this, you won’t look back at ...

17 September 2011

Becca’s long-term boyfriend has gone cold and aggressive

That must be really awful for you Becca. Not only do you have a long history together but the change is sudden. This could be for all sorts of reasons ...

17 September 2011

Jess’ lost her virginity to her girlfriend but isn’t sure she was good in bed

Okay, Jess, do not give yourself a hard time. Groaning and moaning is Hollywood. Yes, it might happen in the course of your own sex life too, but it’s certainly ...

17 September 2011

John’s partner is overdoing temptation and driving him crazy

Firstly, there’s nothing abnormal about having something, a particular item of clothing or fetish for something. For some men it’s silk, for some it’s having their partner talk dirty. For ...

16 September 2011

Ruth is a virgin and wants to try it out on a vibrator

Okay, the first way I can reassure you, without any medical knowledge (if you have any pain, then I suggest you see your GP), is that typically, every woman’s vagina ...

16 September 2011

Emily wants what she can’t have

Oh dear, this isn’t the first time I’ve encountered this problem, and why it always happens like this, it seems cruel. But you’ve got to hold on to one thing ...

16 September 2011

Sophie’s new boss is constantly sniping at her

What you are going through, Sophie, is bullying, and it might well be something you’ve not encountered before. Plenty of people navigate all their school years without being bullied and ...

16 September 2011

Chris isn’t sure his thing for thongs is normal

What’s normal in anyone’s sex life? I mean, what’s normal for one person could be weird or repulsive for another. But this is something that just involves you - or ...

13 September 2011

Is Porn Damaging Our Relationship?

Most people who have never seen porn can be repulsed by it. You seem level-headed about it though and know that it’s cheesy and cringey and that it’s just something ...

13 September 2011

Daisy’s new baby’s dad is having cybersex: is he cheating?

Woah!. You write all that, worrying about whether he’ll make you feel stupid, and worrying if you’re overreacting, and you’ve only just had a baby? That last sentence is sooo ...

13 September 2011

Shyanne is too scared to see the doctor

Poor you. It’s not pleasant. Have you decided this is probably your problem by researching symptoms on the internet? If you look at a reliable website such as the NHS ...

13 September 2011

Djay doesn’t know which guy to go for

It’s a slightly confusing situation. Are you split between both boys, and not sure who to go for? Which one do you like best? If the one who might be ...

13 September 2011

Emma Attracted To Older Man

Firstly, stay away from the store room! Fancying someone you shouldn’t is nothing new, nothing special and something to just enjoy from a distance. Sometimes it’s someone in the street, ...

13 September 2011

Kath’s doesn’t know if it’s time to bury her flirty friendship now he has a fiancee

It’s always hard to let go of relationships that have never really taken off. You’ll probably always be haunted by ‘what might have been’, especially if you have got as ...

9 September 2011

Hannah wants to take the lead with her dominant man

You wouldn’t be the first military girlfriend or wife to base their long-distance loving on phone sex, videos and photos, and it definitely builds the excitement up, so there’s no ...

9 September 2011

Megan met her bad lad online and now he’s in jail

Be very careful Megan. Even when someone isn’t a ‘bad lad’, it’s easy for him to misrepresent himself online. A year or more is a long time to have been ...

9 September 2011

Ami doesn’t know whether to kiss and tell

You really are in a fix here aren’t you? You’re blaming what happened on being drunk, so you’re saying it’s not normal behaviour for either of you. I think ...

9 September 2011

Scotty is too upset to move on

You’ve got two problems here - firstly, you’re clearly worried about how you’re going to move on if you’re studying at the same college as his new girlfriend. You don’t ...

5 September 2011

I’M Being Driven Out Of My Mind

I can really sense your despair and the negative effect this is having on your wellbeing and health. What you have to remember is that if you were a teenager, ...

5 September 2011

Is Chelsea In A Cheating Love-Triangle?

First of all, take a step back. It was very brave but possibly detrimental to stage this meeting of all three of you together. Someone’s obviously lying and so whoever ...

5 September 2011

Lola’S Feeling Vulnerable After Losing Her Virginity

I’m not sure how old you are, Lola, or how ready you were to lose your virginity. If you are secretly worrying that you might be pregnant from this first ...