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7 November 2011

Chantelle’s Embarrassed About Her Toyboy

If you’re concerned about this age gap, but you think he is mature, you should stick to your guns. He obviously makes you happy. On the other hand, some people ...

29 October 2011

Maria Can’t Get Her Private Tutor Out Of Her Mind

It happens all over the world and to students and teachers of all ages, and in the movies. It all sounds very predictable though, and was it really that responsible ...

28 October 2011

Scott Isn’t Sure Whether Or Not He Should Lose It

Your opinion is the only one that counts here - and the feelings of whoever you’re wondering about losing your virginity to. Depending on what culture you or she comes ...

28 October 2011

Cammie Wants Dating Tips

You haven’t given much background to work with here - how about you start off by thinking about how you can ask him out rather than leaving him to do ...

28 October 2011

Confused Upset By Texts

You want to stay with him; you don’t want to lose him. I’m trying really hard to think of something encouraging to say but everything about this stinks of lies ...

28 October 2011

Timmy’s Girl Is Too Tall

Probably, yes. She doesn’t sound particularly understanding. But then, if wearing heels makes her feel more confident, but not wearing them makes her less confident, why should she ditch them ...

18 October 2011

Am I Being Selfish And Needy?

There are several things in this message that raise an alarm - most importantly, the bit about him saying he would ‘send you a sweet text’ as you had been ...

18 October 2011

Carrie Is Facing The Holiday From Hell With Her Ex Boyfriend

You sound really confused and torn in all different directions Carrie. Firstly, you only have a relationship for yourself - not for anyone else; not your family or you. Not ...

18 October 2011

Can A Nice Boy Really Do It For Rebecca?

You’ve obviously thought about this a lot, and maybe even researched it, because you’re aware that stress can have an effect on libido. It sounds as if part of you ...

18 October 2011

Devon Wonders If She Was Just A Conquest

It’s really difficult for an outsider to judge whether or not this man really likes you or not, or if it was just a conquest - you don’t give many ...

18 October 2011

Devika Needs To Start At The Beginning With Sex

When you say you need to know how to woo men - do you mean get your boyfriend feeling aroused, or do you want to go out wooing more men? ...

18 October 2011

Monica Has Fallen For Her Best Friend

If he’s your best friend, won’t he have noticed you falling in love with him? When people fall in love, the effects are rarely kept hidden. Also, if he’s your ...

18 October 2011

Grades Have Ruined All Her Plans

Hopefully you’ll have had some advice from tutors - some colleges won’t let you re-take the same subject the next year if you get below a grade D, so hopefully ...

10 October 2011

Cassie Thinks She Can’t Get Pregnant Because She Has Had Lots Of Unprotected Sex

You might be surprised to hear that you aren’t the only teenage girl with this fear - in two parts - that you could be infertile. At school you probably ...

10 October 2011

Robin Can’T Help Feeling Depressed But Has No Excuse

Depression is often cleverly disguised by looking busy to everyone else - sometimes it’s even about kidding ourselves that all is well. If it has been going on for a ...

6 October 2011

Sarah Marie's Parents Have Separated And Her Mum Won't Let Her See Her Dad

I really feel for you. One of my best friends, when I was a similar age, went through something similar and because her parents didn’t really deal very well with ...

6 October 2011

Emmy’S Demanding Boyfriend Is Acting Like An Overbearing Dad

Nobody wants to think of their partner as someone who is over and above them, bearing down on them with demands. It’s not healthy. Everything you say suggests that there ...

6 October 2011

Simon Wants More Than Sweet Talk

Had you said you were in a long-term relationship and you had started calling each other by some pet names, I wouldn’t be surprised; it’s fairly common. You’re in a ...

4 October 2011

Sarah Needs Someone To Turn To, Not To Always Be The Leaning Post

Insomnia, feeling very sad and behaving out of character are common symptoms of depression, yes. Beware of online tests that should really be left to your GP to go through ...

4 October 2011

Suparna’s Fiancé Is Trying To Control Her With His Mum’s Help

You don’t make it clear but I suspect from your letter that you’re either from different cultures or the same culture but you have different expectations and perhaps your family ...

30 September 2011

Caoimhe Thinks She’S Making A Fool Of Herself

Okay, so you’re not the sort of girl who’ll fall for anyone, so you’re probably really frustrated now that this one guy you do like is going a bit distant ...

30 September 2011

Catherine Is Curious About Sex With Other Guys

It sounds like you’re in a really uncomfortable situation that’s making you feel really sad, because you don’t actually want to be feeling the way you do and what you ...

27 September 2011

Fiona Scared Of Being Hurt Again

From the outside, it seems quite reasonable and understandable that he told your friend about his plans. He was probably warning her so that she could be there for you ...

27 September 2011

Leanne’S Sex Life Has Fizzled Out Since Getting Engaged

You’re engaged, not married yet. You don’t have a ‘lot’ to settle for. It sounds as if communication has broken down here and if you’re not talking about what you ...