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22 September 2014

Why didn't he tell me about his work colleague?

Hi G,            It can be hard to trust a person after being hurt but sometimes you need to put your faith in other people and hope that the signs are ...
21 September 2014

Why do I feel so pushed out by my boyfriend since having our baby?

Hi Sarah, Childbirth can be a very unsettling time for couples- perhaps you have not had as much sex as you used to while carrying your baby and got out of ...
20 September 2014

Why do I push boyfriends away?

Hi Jo, Being single for some, can be a much more secure place- you have complete control over your world and deep seated habits. When in a relationship people can feel ...
19 September 2014

Should I take back my ex?

Hi Milli, Being with someone who is full on can be overwhelming and sometimes it can make it harder to leave, for fear of hurting them or finding the right time ...
19 September 2014

Why did he call out my friend's name during sex?

Hi Kate, This does sound like something that could hurt deeply in a marriage, especially when you knew that he had a crush on this woman at the time. Have you talked ...
18 September 2014

Why do I care that I look older than my partner?

Hi Ray, It all depends how much you care about his person. If you see a future and want to be with them then this sounds like something you are going ...
18 September 2014

Why has my friend backed off since I've become a mum?

Hi Kim, Perhaps he relied on you heavily when he was going through these problems you speak of. You have not said that he was a support for you in hard ...
18 September 2014

Why am I bored of my three year relationship?

Hi Sam, If you are bored it could be down to two things- that your relationship needs a boost or that it’s time to go your separate ways. I would suggest ...
17 September 2014

How can I get my partner to priorotize me?

Hi Wife in Distress, Perhaps agree a day and a time for them to come around each week if it’s getting to much for you. Then at least you can prepare ...
17 September 2014

How can I get my boyfriend to break up with me?

Hi Julie, Perhaps don’t wait for him to break up with you or encourage it. Maybe you could initiate the break up if you are certain that you don’t want to ...
16 September 2014

Why has he left me now I'm pregnant?

Hi Angie, This sounds like an awful thing to happen to you when you are supposed to be celebrating and feeling closer to your partner. The reality is you can’t make him ...
8 September 2014

Why does my boyfriend make me feel so unwanted?

Hi Sophie, This sounds like a very unhappy place to be in your relationship right now. You have not mentioned talking to him about the way you feel. It might be worth ...
8 September 2014

Why didn't he come to see me in hospital?

Hi Amy, Partners should be there during the good and bad so maybe if he has not shown any interest in seeing you while you have been ill, then perhaps he ...
8 September 2014

Why are our arguments so brutal?

Hi P, If you were not sure about this whole thing to begin with then maybe it’s time to listen to your gut. If you feel deep down that it’s not ...
5 September 2014

Why have we had not had much sex since Christmas?

Hi Rebecca,            Losing a job can take its toll on mood and libido- the stress of not knowing if you will find another and if you will make ends meet can ...
3 September 2014

We had a**l sex- is she cheating on me?

Hi I, Perhaps she finally has enough trust in the relationship to be able to take your sex life to another level. Anal sex takes a lot of trust and sometimes ...

3 September 2014

Why won't he have sex with me?

Hi Michelle, Perhaps he is a little cautious about having sex with you while you are pregnant- it sounds like you have been pregnant for the majority of your relationship- so ...
3 September 2014

Why can't I figure out my sexuality?

Hi Fran, It could be that it was just that relationship with the guy that was off and it has thrown you. Perhaps try going on a few dates with men ...
3 September 2014

Should I leave my boyfriend and get back with my ex?

Hi Kim, The question you probably need to ask yourself is why did you break up with your ex? Whatever the reason- would this problem come back? Or are you both ...
1 September 2014

Why wont he support my career?

Hi Sarah, It sounds like you have had to be patient where his job is concerned; his hours might have put a huge strain on your relationship as it stands. It is ...
1 September 2014

I want to marry a man half may age- am I mad?

Hi Chloe, No you are not mad. If you are in love with this man and he loves you then marriage is a healthy way to express this love to other ...
1 September 2014

Why is he still looking at dating profiles after 5 years?

Hi Jessica, If the account was set up as you began dating then perhaps at first he left it open because he wasn’t sure if you two would last, so kept ...
29 August 2014

Why have we not had sex in 8 months?

Hi Jacquie, Perhaps he is still suffering from the death of his mother. A reduced sexual libido can often be attributed to depression and low moods so maybe you could suggest ...
28 August 2014

Should I take my husband back after mental illness?

Hi Lisa, I am not sure if you mean that your husband had the mental illness or you did, so I will answer from both angles. If it’s you who has had ...