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26 December 2014

Should I give my partner half of my bonus?

Hi Nancy, For a lot of couples splitting everything down the middle makes their joint financial life as balanced and fair as possible. If you were given an unexpected windfall that was ...
25 December 2014

How can I get my partner to spend less money?

Hi Confused, Money is always a tricky subject with couples at some moment in their relationship and it’s at this point that there needs to be greater communication over spending habits. Perhaps ...
24 December 2014

How can I find a boyfriend?

Hi Jilly, Some people rightly or wrongly think that a bar or a club is the only place to meet someone. However it all depends on what kind of person you ...
16 December 2014

I'm worried my marriage is not going to work- what should I do?

Hi Anonymous, If you are in any doubt about getting married then you need to talk to your partner. What is worrying you? Perhaps write each thing down and a reason why ...
15 December 2014

My partner does nothing-what should I do?

Hi Ann, It sounds like somewhere along the line, there has been an imbalance of contributions both physically and financially to your household and it has got gradually worse. I would suggest ...
12 December 2014

Should I meet up with my granddad?

Hi Harley, If the issue is with your dad, then perhaps you could benefit from seeing your granddad as he many have had no involvement in why your father left you. ...
11 December 2014

Where do I stand with the guy I fancy?

Hi Lauren, It sounds like his attention is never on one girl so he might not be looking for a relationship right now. If he was into you only until another ...
10 December 2014

Why do they talk about me behind my back?

Hi Emma, It goes without saying that University is one of the most difficult times in your life and your experience is one of the main reasons why. Being thrust together ...
9 December 2014

I have a lump on my vagina- what should I do?

Hi Anonymous, This can be worrying for any woman so it’s no surprise that you are finding it hard to leave alone. If you shave down there, it could be in ingrown ...

6 December 2014

Why is my mum so angry all the time?

Hi Honey, Perhaps you moving out has caused such an extreme reaction. Having a child move away from the family home is almost like a grieving the loss of a loved ...
5 December 2014

Why is my libido non-existent?

Hi Louise, If you think it’s your pill, then perhaps make a trip to your doctor and tell them the symptoms you have been getting and ask if you can change ...
4 December 2014

Why am I flirting with a man from work when my wedding is next year?

Hi Troubled Girl, Five years down the line, you might feel less attracted to your partner if the honeymoon period is well and truly over or your love life may have ...
3 December 2014

My water tablets are making me incontinent- what can I do?

Hi John, This sounds like a great inconvenience to you right now, especially now it is affecting your relationship. I would suggest at you go back to the GP that prescribed these ...
3 December 2014

I miss my home

Hi Lucie, It could be the third year pressure is getting to you. There is a lot at stake- you have worked hard for two years towards this moment and sometimes ...
3 December 2014

Why don't home grown men like me?

Hi Sarah, Perhaps it’s time to join a group in something you love- like a book group or reading group- combine your favourite things with getting yourself out there socialising. At ...
1 December 2014

My daughter has payments from men on her statement- should I confront her?

Hi Lucy, Perhaps next time she is home you could talk to her about it. She may be angry that you have checked her bank statement without her knowledge if you ...
30 November 2014

Why does my best friend hate me?

Hi Maggie, It sounds like the communication between you and your best friend is not very effective right now. It seems that if you have an issue with him, you walk away ...
29 November 2014

Should I be closer to my partner than my best friend?

Hi Boo, I would say generally, you share more things with a partner, love, sex, shared finances, where you live, joint goals and ups and downs. Some of these are not ...
26 November 2014

Why did she tell my friend my Instagram post was about her?

Hi Holly, First of all, I would suggest that if you feel aggrieved by one of your friends, that you talk to them first rather than posting something on Instagram. People ...
25 November 2014

I don't find him attractive- what should I do?

Hi Cassidy, Although looks are not everything in a relationship- there needs to be an element of attraction there for it to work between you both. It sounds like he is ...
24 November 2014

He is not very well endowed- what should I do?

Hi Jade, If he is younger than you, then maybe he is just naïve when it comes to relationships- making him 'intense' because he doesn’t yet know where the boundaries are. ...
20 November 2014

What should I do about my unhappy relationship?

Hi Sarah, The first thing I would ask is why are you unhappy? If you are going to talk to your partner, then I would suggest that you have a think ...
19 November 2014

Is my boyfriend cheating on me if he watches porn?

Hi Shohorst, Cheating is usually defined as a physical or emotional thing. He is not physically having sex with the women he sees in the porn he is watching and there ...
18 November 2014

How can I stop self pleasuring?

Hi Hazza, If you are intent on reducing the amount of time you spend masturbating then I would suggest that you take away all temptations. Ban yourself from the sites you ...