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28 July 2014

Why does my girlfriend think that our sex life is fine?

Hi Josh, This sounds very frustrating when you say you love her and want to show her physically how you feel, but she is reluctant to get involved. Perhaps she has low ...
26 July 2014

Why do I have a crush on my boyfriend's best friend?

Hi Tam Tam,        Perhaps if you have a personal belief that you should not 'mess with married men' then leave this one alone. It might be that he was simply ...
25 July 2014

I'm a transvestite- how can I tell everyone?

Hi Silk Label, Perhaps take a look at the forums or support groups out there (see below) that are available to ask like-minded people how they told their close friends and ...
25 July 2014

Why is my skin condition weighing down on my confidence so much?

Hi Laila, Perhaps try not to think of them as imperfections but as differences. Everyone has differences it just so happens that some of yours are on show. If you feel that ...
25 July 2014

Should I take the job on a trial basis?

Hi Laura, Perhaps doing the trial might help you decide- after it’s over you can make a more informed decision if it’s for you or not. If you don’t take the ...
24 July 2014

Why is my daughter being so distant?

Hi Donna, If you were apart for so long then it is natural that you might need some time to create a bond between you both. Perhaps you could talk to her ...
24 July 2014

Why does my friend want me to hang out with my ex's ex?

Hi Sasha,           Have you talked to him about what he expected of you when he broke up with the person you got on well with? Perhaps remind him of this ...
22 July 2014

Why is my husband addicted to cybersex?

Hi Paula, Perhaps you could suggest some couple’s counselling to explore why he finds the need to spend so much time engaging in cybersex. It is normal for men to watch ...
22 July 2014

How can I tell if she loves me back?

Hi Joe, If you have not really spoken to this woman before then approaching her to tell her you love her might be a bit intimidating. Why not ask her out ...
21 July 2014

Who should I choose? The layabout or the serious worker?

Hi Temi, It sounds like you have already made your decision- you say you like the serious guy, so perhaps explore something further with him. It may just be that he ...
21 July 2014

Why isn't my partner helping with our baby?

Hi Broken-hearted, This sounds like an awful situation to be faced with while you are adjusting to being a new mum. If your attempts to encourage them to have some father-son time ...
20 July 2014

How can I stop my husband distracting me as I finish my masters?

Hi Susie, This sounds like a very frustrating place to be right now. It seems that you are going above and beyond to secure a good future of you both, where ...
20 July 2014

My ex still fancies me- should I get back with him?

Hi Charlotte, Whatever the reason for your break up before is likely to resurface unless your are both 100% committed to not falling back into old ways. The first sniff of ...
19 July 2014

Should I text him on his new number?

Hi Manuela, Four months is not a long time to allow yourself to get over someone- so try not to feel too worried if your feelings for him have not escaped ...
19 July 2014

Why am I so worried about my boyfriend's first kiss?

Hi Rose, It can be hard to accept that your partner has had another relationship before you, however most people have. The main thing is that he picked you- not her. First ...
18 July 2014

Why are we always fighting?

Hi Confused.com, If you have given him a second chance and he has not made the most out of the opportunity to try and makes things work, then perhaps it's time ...
18 July 2014

How do I tell my parents that I've failed my first year at uni?

Hi Anna, They will find out eventually once your degree is extended by a year, so it might be worth just being honest with them and talking through your options. Perhaps the ...
18 July 2014

Why is my husband not interested in intimacy?

Hi Kat, If he won’t talk about it with you, then perhaps he would with a relationship counsellor. Perhaps you could suggest that you enrol in some counselling to help explore ...
17 July 2014

How do I make my own decisions without hurting other's feelings?

Hi Dee, Could you ask your Dad for a loan to go out and see him? If he is keen to see you too then he might agree to lend you ...
17 July 2014

He doesn't want to commit because of health problems- should I back off?

Hi Sarah, Health problems can pose a problem in the initial stages of a relationship, it's sometimes better if the pair have been together for a while before they are strong ...
16 July 2014

We had sex on holiday- should we get back together?

Hi Sophie, Holidays can be a false representation of how a relationship functions day to day. With no stresses or worries the relationship can appear to be a lot easier than ...
15 July 2014

How can I tell my best friend that things aren't the same anymore?

Hi Salianna, It can be hard for very close friends to accept that things are changing and those habits you have formed together will no longer be there. Like anything else ...
15 July 2014

Why does it feel like he's brushing me off?

Hi Guy, If you think you already know why he is not being intimate with you then perhaps talk to him about it and ask him the question. If he does ...
14 July 2014

Why is he sending mixed messages my way?

Hi Jane, Communication is a key factor to the success of many relationships. If you are not sure- you could just ask him. It may seem daunting or that you are ...