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11 August 2014

Why have we not been getting on lately?

Hi Karen, It sounds like your main issue could be communication, or lack thereof. If you are communicating with each other via arguments more than talking and then following this up ...
11 August 2014

I've found my dad's porn stash- how can I stop my mum finding out?

Hi Mark, It can be uncomfortable talking to your parents about anything of a sexual nature, especially when it’s about their particular preferences. It might be that your mum already knows ...
11 August 2014

Why does he spend more time with his friend than me?

Hi Nicolle,       Men tend not to realise that there is something wrong until you tell them. Women are more sensitive to the moods of others, however men are often less perceptive. ...
7 August 2014

If she doesn't pass will our rent double?

Hi Jessica, As is with a lot of university rentals- often you can pay per room- so maybe find another house that is charged by room only and not the entire ...
7 August 2014

Will my family and friends ever like him?

Hi Charlie, If you were not together but dating, then it seems like you might have had an open relationship- in which case if he kissed another woman then he might ...
6 August 2014

Why is she so close to her male friend?

Hi Alyx, Relationships can be difficult when one of the couple has a friend of the opposite sex. Perhaps you could have asked her or talked to her first when you ...
6 August 2014

Why did she have to mention the money?

Hi Kay, Perhaps try to forget about it. It might be considered a little rude to ask for it, given that it would have been a windfall, so maybe leave it ...
4 August 2014

Why did he lead me on if he just wanted to be friends?

Hi Lisa, Perhaps he met up with you to see if he felt anything more than friends and from the three dates you had, discovered that he was more comfortable being ...
3 August 2014

Why does writing to my pen-pal feel like cheating?

Hi Kerry, Perhaps look at each situation separately. If you don’t love your boyfriend anymore and he only wants to be intimate with you when you are slimmer, then perhaps it’s ...
3 August 2014

Why can't I stop thinking about sex?

Hi Lost Girl, It is understandable that after being with one man in each of your relationships that you are looking to explore but  you are right; you are putting yourself ...
2 August 2014

How can I stop feeling worried about my breasts?

  Hi Laura, If you feel surgery is too much or you to face then it might be a matter of working on your self-esteem. You could call in at your doctors ...
2 August 2014

Should I take the plunge and ask him out?

Hi Alesha, 5 years is a long time to be ‘crazy’ about someone so you might owe it to yourself to find out where this could go. If he encouraged you ...
1 August 2014

Has he just used me?

Hi Patricia, It’s easy to think that history is repeating itself, if you have been hurt before and you feel that you are venturing down the same path. Perhaps if you ...
1 August 2014

How can I make my boyfriend interested in sex again?

Hi Georgie, Sex after being together for so long can feel like a habit, rather than something you enjoy- it’s often not a reflection of a partner, but more about familiarity ...
1 August 2014

How long should I wait to work on myself?

Hi L, There is no set time it will take to work on yourself- it might take three months it might take a year- it all depends how you want to ...
31 July 2014

Why is my neighbour becoming so dependent on me?

Hi Louise, This sounds like a very awkward position to be in- especially if it’s got to the point where you don’t want to go home. As harsh as it might sound, ...
31 July 2014

He told me he loved me so why did he leave?

Hi Sarah, Sometimes when people know that their relationship is not going to plan, they say things like this to try and convince themselves that it is. Maybe he said such ...
31 July 2014

He wants me to go out and visit him again- should I go?

Hi Sinead, If you want to be in a long distance relationship then it should ideally work both ways. If you have been out to visit him then it is only ...
30 July 2014

I met an amazing woman- but I have a partner and kids

Hi Jason, If you are going through your ups and downs with your girlfriend then perhaps that has made you try to fill in the gaps with this other woman. If she ...
30 July 2014

He's gone cold- should I contact him?

Hi Kim, If you have not contacted him before now then perhaps drop him a text to see if he wants to go out again. He might not be the type ...
30 July 2014

My boyfriend cheated on me three times- should I take him back?

Hi Julie, Was Thailand a one off? If not, then if you were to go away for another month could you trust him not to repeat this behaviour? Or if you ...
29 July 2014

Why am I so concerned about the way my vagina looks?

Hi Melanie, All vaginas look different- there is nowhere that says they have to be a certain size or shape. Some women have larger labia than others. If you find the ...
29 July 2014

Am I in the right place sexually?

Hi Little Miss Sunshine, You are quite right, the novelty can wear off in a sexual relationship after the initial honeymoon phase is over, it might be this just starting to ...
28 July 2014

How can I make our sex life more interesting?

Hi Rachael, It can be hard to make the transition between friends and lovers, and it’s only been 6 months so perhaps you found it easier than him to break away ...