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20 January 2015

My friend has lost a lot of weight- should I tell him I have feelings for him now?

Hi Claire, If he has been overweight then perhaps you have shared the same concerns over the years, which have enabled you to bond more closely as friends. If you approach him ...
19 January 2015

My girlfriend can't have sex- should I get an escort?

Hi Barton, If you have had sex in the last 2 years, then it sounds like she can be penetrated but perhaps it’s uncomfortable for her. Something like this could be ...
16 January 2015

Why does my boyfriend ignore me?

Hi Sucheta, There is no harm in being a little bit dependent on each other while you are in a relationship, however if you see no-one but each other- then you ...
15 January 2015

Why has he hacked my Facebook account?

Hi Kelly, It sounds like he wanted to move on quickly after your break up by how long it took him to get into another relationship. Perhaps set up a new Facebook ...
15 January 2015

Why do I keep looking on his Facebook page?

Hi Olivia, Chances are that you feel worse now you are back at university because you might bump into him where at home there was no danger of this. Other people ...
15 January 2015

Why does she ignore me while she's on Facebook?

Hi Martin, Have you talked to her about the Facebook issue? No-one likes being ignored, Facebook or no Facebook, but if that is the reason for her not paying attention to ...
14 January 2015

Why is my boyfriend accusing me of something I didn't do?

Hi D, If you have no recollection of this happening then maybe he was dreaming it and thought it was real. If he feels insecure in the relationship then his worries ...
13 January 2015

Am I wasting my youth by staying in a stable job?

Hi Sinead, It is arguable that landing in a stable job that pays well when you are just 21 is a very rare thing. It is certainly something that you might ...
13 January 2015

I've lost interest in my wife- what should I do?

Hi Losi, Have you talked to her about the way you feel? Perhaps sit down with her and talk about how you have supported her through her training and now she ...
12 January 2015

Why do I feel so sad and frustrated?

Hi Jessie, Chances are; you feel worse when you are at home because you might have more alone time. This increased opportunity to think about your life and analyse it in ...
12 January 2015

My boyfriend told me he's bisexual- should I leave him?

Hi Lisa, If you still love each other then some couple’s counselling might help you to get through this difficult point in your relationship. Perhaps this is not something that you were ...
10 January 2015

Should I give the woman at work a Valentine's gift?

Hi Anonymous, If you don’t think it’s appropriate to be dating someone at work then perhaps you should go with your gut on this one. If it goes against your beliefs ...
9 January 2015

Should I get back with my ex or be without the spark?

Hi Richard, If this thing with your ex is about the ‘spark’, then perhaps you could look into some ways to create that with your current partner. You mention trust issues with ...
9 January 2015

How do I create a spark between us?

Hi Neil, Should it matter how long she will be around for? She might leave your place of work but find somewhere close to, so if you do start anything up ...
8 January 2015

Why does my boyfriend make no time for me?

Hi Shelly, Relationships are about what you say and what you do not just one or the other, so if he tells you he loves you and that you mean a ...
7 January 2015

Will ignoring my friend do any good?

Hi Jessica, If the intent was not to hurt your friend then it sounds like you did not deliberately mean to cause any friction between both of you. Despite the meaning, ...
5 January 2015

Should I continue to see a married man?

Hi Cheryl, It all depends if all of you are happy with the arrangement that you have. If he wants to stay with his wife for the sake of his family, ...
4 January 2015

Should I tell my best friend I am in love with her?

Hi Gemma, Perhaps you feel jealous of her when she goes out with someone because she has a partner and you don’t. It may be that when she is attached to ...
3 January 2015

How can I ask my boyfriend to stop watching x rated material?

Hi Anonymous, It’s important to remember that men are very visual creatures and much prefer to have something to watch while masturbating. Women on the other hand can suffice with just ...
2 January 2015

Why won't my ex girlfriend give me my stuff back?

Hi Steve, Break ups can make people do the strangest of things in order to get back at or get some attention from their ex. Perhaps she is doing this to ...
31 December 2014

We don't like their children, what can we do?

Hi Chris, It is normal and natural to be preoccupied with your children from being very young right through to them being a little bit more independent. They are a huge ...
29 December 2014

Why did I kiss his colleague at the office party?

Hi Anjali,  As long as you were not doing this while you were dating him then you have not done anything wrong. Yes it is a little awkward that it happened, ...
28 December 2014

We did we have sex after our work's party?

Hi Anna,  If they had separated and got back together only for him to sleep with you, then it might not be working between them. Think about it from her perspective, ...
27 December 2014

Should I have kissed him?

Hi Carla, If you have been with someone for a while; flirting and the excitement of being in a relationship can fade, leaving you to notice when other people choose to ...