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14 November 2013

I wish my parents were more supportive

Parents will always be over protective, a parent’s job doesn’t end at 18 when you leave home it's is a constant worry that you will be safe. Trying new things ...
13 November 2013

He loves me but I want to break up

Better not to lie to him and tell him the same back when you feel differently. Perhaps don’t tell him about your best friend's brother and just tell him that ...
13 November 2013

I like my best friend but so does my mate!

By telling him and possibly entering into a relationship with your friend you run the risk of affecting two friendships, so it really depends on what you think your chances ...
13 November 2013

My cousin has fallen out with me after my birthday

The fact is that you could not accommodate any more people as it was a small event, there was nothing personal, it is just unfortunate that he expected an invite. You ...
12 November 2013

He didn't try and sleep with me

If you care about someone and it is reciprocated, it shouldn’t feel like you are ‘pestering’ the other person. Although you didn’t sleep together right away, you still did relatively ...
12 November 2013

I kissed the guy she lost her virginity to

There will always be strong feelings for the person you lost your virginity to, whether they be bad or good. It is a big deal for some people and they ...
12 November 2013

My partner hasn't worked for five years

If one partner works it is only fair that the other takes care of things in the home or at least attempts to find work if staying at home is ...
11 November 2013

He left me to go to Canada with his mates

You have achieved so much in those five years that you should not give them away lightly if the decision is to move over to Canada still. You have made ...
11 November 2013

My friend has ditched me for her boyfriend

Friendships always suffer as a result of a relationship, it’s inevitable when the romance is new and six months is not long to still be in the honeymoon phase with ...
11 November 2013

I'm tempted by another man

You need to figure out why you want this man. Are you simply sexually attracted to him? Do you feel you could fall in love with him? Is he better ...
10 November 2013

I can see us growing old together!

You are right not to get involved in breaking them up by coming on too strong. If you do end up together this should be through a mutual attraction not ...
10 November 2013

My friend requires constant reassurance

It sounds like she likes the attention from you and is now aware that if she has a bad day you will pick her up- it's a habit you two ...
10 November 2013

Is he messing me about?

If there is any doubt that is he is with his ex or still not over her then perhaps leave this one alone. The reason you can’t get over him ...
9 November 2013

He tells me he fancies my mate!

There is nothing wrong with finding other people attractive when you are in a relationship, the problem arises when you either verbalise it too much in front of your partner ...
9 November 2013

I'm scared of being intimate with him again

Perhaps suggest that you stay friends until you can see a change. At the moment you are still doubtful. He has told you he is back to his normal ways ...
9 November 2013

Should I date or wait for my ex?

Relationships that are constantly on and off have a recurring problem and if you have not resolved this in two years then it doesn’t bode well for the long term. ...
8 November 2013

He says he can change

There is a pattern of events here- he has cheated on you and you have gone back and forth a lot of times with you always being the one to ...
8 November 2013

I avoid sex because i'm self conscious

Have you talked to him about the way this makes you feel? If you expressed your insecurity to him perhaps he would be able to put these to bed by ...
7 November 2013

I slept with my boss

Hi Sarah, thanks for writing in. It could be both. That said, he has already admitted that he likes you and that he would want to be an item if you ...
7 November 2013

I helped him with his drug problem

Hi Sara, thanks for writing in. The fact that you lived together meant that the opportunity was there to start something up and it has been bypassed. You did right to ...
6 November 2013

I got mad with my best friend

Hello Sofia, thanks for writing in. The people in your life are right to advise you to talk to her as this is the only way you can explain your case ...
6 November 2013

He thought it was a one night stand!

If you told him when you talked that you didn’t want relationships at University this is likely why he slept with you, because you were both on the same page- ...
6 November 2013

I'm constantly paranoid he's cheating on me!

This is a feeling that takes time to reduce and some people never get over it. What has he done to reassure you that he won’t do it again? Have ...
5 November 2013

What is marital status?

A martial status tells someone if you are married or not. You are often asked his question on forms and polls, generally job applications and credit card applications. ...