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26 November 2013

I can't stop thinking about my ex

Hi Nigel, thanks for getting in touch.   It could be that getting off with her has dragged up old memories of familiarity and comfort which has made you have feelings once ...
25 November 2013

I'm in love with sister's fiance

If he is marrying your sister then he will likely be part of your life for a long time. It is more likely to be an infatuation, it is hard ...
24 November 2013

We've had a rough week!

Hi Sohail, thanks for getting in touch. As a woman, I am the first to admit that we can be indecisive sometimes. There could be several things going on here- she ...
24 November 2013

Mum has threatened to leave me

Hi Charlie, thanks for writing in. You should not have to choose between either of them. It is as you say understandable that your mum was upset, as she didn’t know ...
23 November 2013

We haven't spoken in 10 days

  Hi Sharlene thanks for getting in touch. If his father has just passed then he may need some local help with this. You can only do so much from afar, so ...
23 November 2013

He didn't call!

Hi Sophie, thanks for getting in touch. The trouble with text messages are that you can’t gauge people’s reactions so your words and actions. If he didn’t care then he would ...
22 November 2013

We danced dirty and now my feelings have come back!

Hi JB thanks for getting in touch. The important thing to remember is that you are in control of your actions, so if you are feeling like this could lead somewhere ...
22 November 2013

I dreamt about getting back with my ex- should I?

Hi Melissa, thanks for writing in! You are engaged and he is married, so by making any moves you will be break up two families. Perhaps the dream has just put ...
22 November 2013

He wants to meet up with the girl he met online

Hi Sally, thanks for getting in touch. If you are not comfortable with this then show your concerns. If the roles were reversed how would he feel about your doing this? ...
21 November 2013

I want my girlfriend to be my mistress

Hi Rohan, thanks for getting in touch!   If she doesn’t want to be your mistress, there is nothing I can do to change her mind. If you mean instead of your ...
21 November 2013

He was messaging loads of girls too!

Hi Laura, thanks for getting in touch.   Often our paranoia arises from our own guilt of doing the very thing that we are accusing someone else of. By accusing you of ...
20 November 2013

I'm so horny

Hi Vanessa, thanks for getting in touch. One Night Stand sights are probably not a good idea and likely something that you will regret. Sex is something that is pressured onto ...
20 November 2013

I find him really attractive!

The only way you will find out is to ask him out for a date. Hearsay from your friends is clearly confusing things and making you both uncomfortable- if you ...
19 November 2013

They all like her more than me!

People gravitate towards people who are secure and confident. Insecurity unfortunately is not an attractive option. If you are constantly comparing yourself to her and feeling less than, this will ...
19 November 2013

He tells me he hates me

Hi Dawn, thanks for getting in touch.  Hate is a very strong word and usually one that is used on the heat of the moment. If you hate someone you often ...
19 November 2013

He slept around when we were on a break!

‘Breaks’ are very ambiguous things as those couples that take them very often don’t set boundaries as to what are and aren’t acceptable things to do while you are parted. ...
18 November 2013

How can I spice up my sex life with my wife?

Hi Bill, thanks for getting in touch.   Women respond well to romance, which often will follow on to sex when they feel sufficiently pursued. Why not take her out for a ...
18 November 2013

I'm sexting my daughter's boyfriend

If your daughter finds out about this you could jeopardise what you have with her, by continuing with the sexting and the flirting, you are seriously putting your relationship with ...
18 November 2013

Am I awesome?

HI Kim, thanks for getting in touch. The fact that you have written in asking this perhaps means that you may have questions about your own self-worth. Your self-esteem should not ...
17 November 2013

I kissed her ex on a date

If you are honest with her from the outset then you will not run the risk of her finding out any other way which will look much worse. If you ...
16 November 2013

Will he ever text?

It sounds like he might have been saying those things to sleep with you. Men and women can be very manipulative when sex is on the table and say whatever ...
15 November 2013

How do I let him down gently?

Hi Grainne, thanks for getting in touch. Carrying on when you don’t want to be with someone is worse than biting the bullet and dumping them, because the longer you are ...
15 November 2013

He blames himself for what happened

Hi Jenny, thanks for getting in touch. It sounds like he may still be keeping you at a distance because he has not got over the loss. Perhaps suggest that he ...
15 November 2013

My Nan won't scatter my dad's ashes

Asking her for them might not be the best approach but talking to her about the benefits of having them scattered so you can visit as a family, might be ...