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30 August 2013

I still love my ex

You should not have to decide between happiness and a family, but it would seem that this is the position you are in. If you stay with this man, will ...
29 August 2013

I am too big for my wife

There are several things that can be done to help ease the pain. Firstly, use lots of lube, if you are not, then this is painful at the best of ...
28 August 2013

Is my girlfriend cheating?

She is certainly displaying the signs of cheating. A lack in sex, not wanting to talk to you, being guarded about her phone, these are all things that could mean ...
28 August 2013

She turned me down but still pays me attention

This girl may not want to date you but likes to flirt with you because it is in her nature to do so. Flirting is fun and frivolous with no ...
28 August 2013

I don't know what I want from life

Retirement is tricky time for anyone who has been used to an active and busy lifestyle, so it will take some time to adjust. Often restlessness and indecisiveness can be ...
27 August 2013

My husband sleeps in a separate room

Hi Marilyn, thanks for writing in.   It sounds like your husband is working very hard, but he needs to make time for his marriage too. Perhaps you could suggest that he ...
27 August 2013

He broke up with me and wants to move away

If someone says that they love you but can’t see a future with you, it’s a bit of a contradiction. If someone loves you, it is usually at whatever cost ...
26 August 2013

He doesn't want to be exclusive!

If he texts you every day and askes to meet up at weekends there is something keeping him interested. Have you had sex with this guy? If so, then he ...
25 August 2013

Is my wife having an affair?

There are several tell tales sign that your wife may be having an affair. If she is pulling away from you and not being as affectionate, because she is getting ...
24 August 2013

My boyfriend doesn't like the way I dress

If you wear tight, revealing clothes other men will look at you. It is inevitable. The point is he needs to trust that even with admirers you won’t act on ...
23 August 2013

How do I resolve arguments?

Arguments can be susceptible to manipulation, in order to end them faster or to inflict guilt on the other person. Men are very simple creatures, if they don’t like something ...
23 August 2013

I have no time to exercise

If you don’t have time to exercise, then modifying your diet will help. You can visit your local doctors and get referred to a dietician who can advise you of ...
23 August 2013

My girlfriend is depressed

Hello Matt, thanks for writing in. It sounds like you have tried to talk to her about this and that you have been there for her as much as you can ...
22 August 2013

How to combat the age gap

An age gap is only a problem if the couple see it as a problem. If you love each other and you feel comfortable and right in each other’s company, ...
22 August 2013

He wants a baby, I want a marriage!

You are right a baby is a bigger commitment than marriage; a wedding is one day of your life, with the opportunity to separate if it goes wrong, being parent ...
21 August 2013

I am nervous about coming back to the UK

Moving away from familiarity is always hard, it is always worth giving it a chance and see how you go. It will take a few months to readjust, but having ...
21 August 2013

He said he needs time to think

The line of ‘I want to stop myself from falling in love with you to have some time to think’ is usually a sign that he is making something up ...
21 August 2013

My dad says I will fail!

Parents just want what is best for their children, some choose to do it in an encouraging way, where others focus on the negatives to push you harder and your ...
20 August 2013

We have had sex once in the last nine weeks!

Hi Katy, thanks for writing in. It is natural for the sex to dwindle the longer you are together and the more effort needs to be made to keep your sex ...
20 August 2013

My boyfriend would rather watch porn than have sex with me!

Porn is the easier option, it may have nothing to do with not wanting to have sex with you, it just means less effort on his part, as less energy ...
20 August 2013

He told me he can never love me!

Hi, thanks for writing in. A piece of advice that was given to me years ago was that after two weeks if you can’t see yourself being with a person long ...
19 August 2013

I'm having an affair with my good friend

What I always say when someone is having an affair is how would you feel if this was being done to you? At the moment he has the best of ...
19 August 2013

He doesn't love me but I still want him

There comes a point where lust just simply isn’t enough and if you are certain that this guy does not love you then you need to put your sexual urges ...
19 August 2013

She says I left her for him

There is always jealousy between friends when a new partner comes into the mix, especially if you have been friends for a long time and inseparable. If she is single ...