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13 December 2013

Am I still a virgin?

Hi Esther, thanks for getting in touch! If you didn’t have penetrative sex then you are still classed as a virgin by most heterosexuals. Some cultures and people of different sexual ...
12 December 2013

We had sex.... now what?

Hi Steven, thanks for getting in touch! If she made a move then it could be that she likes you or it could be that she wanted a good time. Is ...
12 December 2013

His ex started talking to me about their sex life!

Hi Shirley, thanks for getting in touch. Every couple is different, but there are certain things that you should avoid and talking to your partner’s ex is one. If the break ...
12 December 2013

I keep losing interest in men!

Hi Mairead, thanks for getting in touch. Usually when you push someone away it’s because of the way you feel about yourself- an insecurity. It sounds like because your first encounters ...
11 December 2013

He asked me out and now he won't speak to me

Hi, thanks for getting in touch. If you’re too shy to tell him how you feel in person then how about a text or a Facebook message? You could probably do ...
11 December 2013

I have nightmares about my step-dad

Hi Jazz, thanks for getting in touch. It is worth making an appointment with a counsellor. If you pay a visit to your doctor then they will be able to refer ...
11 December 2013

Is he using it as an excuse?

Hi Fiona, thanks for getting in touch. There is really no way of knowing why he did this; we can both only make assumptions. If he took you back he must ...
11 December 2013

Am I giving off the wrong signals?

Hi Sophie, thanks for getting in touch. There is nothing wrong with enjoying sex- so long as you are safe while doing it. If you are not dating these guys then ...
10 December 2013

His family are really getting me down

Hi Kelly, Families are a difficult things to integrate yourself into, especially ones that are so large. Have you spoken to your partner about it? If he stood up for you ...
10 December 2013

Am I his rebound?

Hi Danni, thanks for getting in touch. You are right you don’t want to be the rebound girl, because you could be setting yourself up for hurt. If his relationship was destined ...
9 December 2013

Is masturbation bad?

Hi Sarah, thanks for getting in touch! Masturbation is a natural process so no, it’s not bad. Some people feel guilty because of their family and upbringing where sex is not ...

9 December 2013

It's written in the stars!

Hi Amy, thanks for getting in touch. If he is married, it may be best to stay away from this one. Perhaps things are stale in his marriage and he wants ...
9 December 2013

How do I get out?

Hi Amy, thanks for getting in touch. If he won’t leave the house, then perhaps it’s up to you to move out? You may share things but sometimes you need to separate ...
8 December 2013

I found a porn video of him and his ex!

Hi Jo, thanks for getting in touch. There is really no way of proving when the video was taken, as unlike pictures on your phone they are not categorised in collections ...
8 December 2013

Will I ever be able to enjoy life again?

Hi Diana, thanks for getting in touch.   Many people go on to live and enjoy their lives while on medication or courses of counselling for depression once they have found one ...
8 December 2013

We hooked up while camping but he's engaged!

Hi Gene, thanks for getting in touch! If you thought he was single then you have done nothing wrong- you were just a women who was attracted to a guy and ...
7 December 2013

Maybe he thinks i'm frigid?

Hi Holly, thanks for getting in touch.   If you don’t want to lose your virginity yet then you don’t have to, whatever anyone else thinks. If he only wanted to sleep ...
7 December 2013

I just want some enjoyment out of life!

Hi there, thanks for getting in touch.   Chances are if you have done something for a while and it’s become a habit then your family will start to expect it of ...
6 December 2013

Is he taking me for a ride?

Hi Amelia, thanks for getting in touch!   By telling you that he won't commit, gives him the opportunity to have a girlfriend like figure in your but also have one night ...
6 December 2013

My sister in law is ruining our family!

Hi there, thanks for getting in touch.   If you have already approached this then there is little more you can do. Some people you can get on with, others you can’t ...
6 December 2013

I slept with my married co-worker!

Hi Isabelle, thanks for getting in touch!   My first piece of advice is to stop sleeping with him, even if he approaches you again. You are setting yourself up for hurt ...
5 December 2013

Should I wait for him to tell me how he feels?

Hi Iffah, thanks for getting in touch. If you are making all the effort then perhaps just wait for him to contact you. If contacting him at the wrong times for ...
5 December 2013

We've lost all trust for one another!

Hi Diana, thanks for getting in touch. Despite the fact he denied that anything happened, the two individual events would indicate that there is something to be worried about. What motivation ...
5 December 2013

Should I forgive him?

Hi Helen, thanks for getting in touch! Stress and pressure can make people sometimes say hurtful things in the heat of the moment, however if they realise the error of their ...