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13 January 2014

My partner of ten years left us

Hi Anonymous, If she is not expressing how she feels to you then yes I would suggest that you arrange some counselling for her. If you pay a visit to the ...
13 January 2014

I'm married to an alcoholic

Hi Anonymous, You have acknowledged the situation which is a huge step in this process- now perhaps it’s time to seek some help.   Have you tried to seek support from friends ...
13 January 2014

I liked his company!

Hi Jessie, From your point of view, this might be pretty innocent- however this guy might think he has a chance if you have not talked about your boyfriend or your ...
13 January 2014

He's changed since we've got back together

Hi Abi, Your mum is right; many people panic after they get engaged as it’s a big decision to make and a lot of planning comes afterwards as you get ready ...
13 January 2014

How long do I wait?

Hi Nic, I would suggest that you try to put all of your focus into your exams. If you did get back together you would probably be preoccupied with making sure ...
13 January 2014

He was watching porn!

Hi Darryl, Many women feel inadequate when it comes to porn- however it is an unfair comparison. The women are portrayed in a certain way that is hard to live up ...
12 January 2014

He keeps giving me mixed signals!

Hi Ashley,   If you feel like you want more then you need to be honest with him. If neither of you has laid down any ground rules, such as being exclusive, ...
11 January 2014

We argue every week!

Hi Samantha,   Have you considered counselling? Relate offer a great service for couples who are struggling on their own and give a helping hand while you are going through a rough ...
10 January 2014

My friends are going away without me!

Hi Katie,   The important thing to remember is that there will be other years and other holidays. You will get the opportunity again to go away with them.   Perhaps be honest with ...
10 January 2014

I can't cope without her

Hi Pauline,   It is difficult to get the balance here. It sounds like she might be rebelling a little bit my making a stand and moving out. Perhaps against you asking ...
10 January 2014

I want to be in a normal, healthy relationship!

Hi Alice,   I would suggest that you pay a visit to the doctors and arrange to be referred to a counsellor. Going through something like this alone, with no support can ...
10 January 2014

Am I being unreasonable?

Hi S,   You are not being unreasonable. This would worry most women if they were faced with the same situation.   Perhaps it’s time that you went to see a relationship counsellor- maybe ...
10 January 2014

His girlfriend doesn't like us being mates!

Hi Rita,   Most girlfriends are cautious about their partner’s having friends who are girls. There is nothing wrong with it but girls become naturally territorial when to comes to their boyfriends ...
10 January 2014

I have no friends!

Hi Lilah,   Why are your existing friends annoying? Why not give them a second chance? It sounds like you are still finding your feet, so maybe it’s better to have someone ...
9 January 2014

My girlfriend's ex is causing problems

Hi Katy,   In these situations it’s a lot about perspective. You have admitted that she gets protective when you speak to your exs, so she should have a better understanding of ...
9 January 2014

My daughter doesn't want me to go!

Hi Gwen,   If you have given all the support you can then you have done your best for her. She is likely frightened that she is not going to have you ...
9 January 2014

He won't meet up with me!

Hi Courtney,   If you are pursuing another man then you need to think long and hard about your relationship with your partner. Other men will always fill the gap when you ...
9 January 2014

I told her secret!

Hi Mia,   Gossip generally gets back to the source. So is it better to hear it from you than someone further down the line. I would suggest coming clean and telling ...
9 January 2014

My friend is a LIAR!

Hi Helen,   Is there no other place he lies? On Twitter for example? Or could you ask him about one of the things he has posted for public view on Facebook ...
8 January 2014

My friend has been sending messages behind my back!

Hi Lulu,   I would suggest that you ask you friend’s boyfriend to back you up here. You don’t have to tell her that you have been reading her phone but the ...
8 January 2014

He doesn't have time for a relationship!

Hi S,   It is a really bold move to tell him that you feel differently, so you should be proud of yourself that you have found the courage to be honest ...
8 January 2014

My friend lies all the time!

Hi Rebecca,   It sounds like you possibly need to stay clear of this girl. If she is constantly causing friction between you, your friends and family then perhaps you need to ...
8 January 2014

I'm not inspired at University!

Hi Stressed,   You are not the first or the last person to feel this way. Some people don’t know until they are in their late twenties what they want to do ...
8 January 2014

We've had many problems

Hi Alexia,   If your mom and her mom are good friends, then that doesn’t mean that you have to be with her. If your mum has already told you that she ...