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7 February 2014

Should I go and leave her behind?

Hi Edey,   It sounds like you are torn between what you want and what you think is the right thing to do.   If your friend wanted to go to the concert but ...
6 February 2014

My partner sweats during sex

Hi Amber,   This is perfectly normal and shows he is working hard to make you happy! Sex is a form of exercise for the body, so just as going to the ...
5 February 2014

'He's never in the mood for it.....'

Hi Lyndsay, This sounds very frustrating; that you can’t share a physical side to your relationship right now with your partner. The longer couples are together, the more effort needs to be ...
5 February 2014

'He broke up with me for my best friend.....'

Hi Steph, It sounds like your head and your heart are telling you two different things which can be very confusing when deciding what do do in your love life. You talk ...
4 February 2014

I asked him what was going on with 'us'

Hi M,   This sounds very confusing for you, when a lot of time you are sharing is similar to that of what a couple would.   It might be the stir that was ...
4 February 2014

'Should I marry him?'

Hi Fran,   Now that he has told you this then you are likely a lot more conscious of it every time that you have an argument. This could be making you ...
4 February 2014

'My friend kissed me.....'

Hi Titch,   This sounds very confusing for you after seeing him as a friend for so long.   This doesn’t have to get out of hand if you don’t want it to. It ...
3 February 2014

I think I love him

Hi Nathalie, Finding your feet with a new partner sounds like an extremely difficult thing to adjust to after what happened. More so when you are unsure of someone’s feelings with ...
3 February 2014

Does she have the same feelings for me as I do her?

Hi Paul, This sounds very unsettling for you, when you seem to have such strong feelings for this woman. The distance is probably not helping you. You appear to want to be ...
3 February 2014

I like my boyfriend's best friend!

Hi Sophie, I am not going to say that you are horrible- it just sounds like you are a little confused and unsure of your feelings at the moment. If you ‘really, ...
2 February 2014

'I've realised my feelings for him....'

Hi Lola, If you like someone; it’s often not a good idea to let what other people think to get in the way. Friends will always gossip about your relationship in ...
2 February 2014

'I'm so against what he did.....'

Hi Scorpi, This sounds very difficult, when your beliefs contradict the behaviours of the person you are trying to support. He likely does need a friend right now, so just listening to ...
2 February 2014

We drive each other insane

Hi Nicky, Loving someone as well as having a very volatile relationship sounds very frustrating for you. A constant barrage of neediness for one particular thing can be a bit off putting ...
1 February 2014

'He will leave if they make contact.....'

Hi Tracy, Given that you are his partner, it sounds very frustrating to be cast aside for other women in your boyfriend’s life. Men who do grow up with women sometimes gravitate ...
1 February 2014

'I have to see my ex three times a week.....'

Hi Sam, This does sound like a huge conflict of emotions- wanting to make sure your children still see their father but trying to look after your own feelings at the ...
1 February 2014

'My sons have no respect for me......'

Hi Sarah, This sounds disappointing; that you are not getting the support you need from the people closest to you in your life. Have you talked to them about this? If not ...
31 January 2014

'He has a reputation for being a player.....'

Hi Scarlette, It sounds like everyone’s opinion of him and his reputation are really making this a difficult decision for you to make. Men can be very charming if there is a ...
31 January 2014

'He keeps accusing me of cheating.......'

Hi Sasha, It sounds like his accusations and his lack of understanding of your emotions are really hurting you. Couples who have been together for a while do tend to have sex ...
31 January 2014

'I don't know if she's a lesbian....'

Hi Lucy, This sounds like a very confusing situation to be in, especially when neither of you know about each other’s sexuality. Why not begin by telling her about you. If she ...
30 January 2014

'I don't like her boyfriend.....'

Hi Lisa,   This sounds very frustrating for you, that you have seen her potential and her current circumstances might be letting this slip away.   Unfortunately, even if you can see where she ...
30 January 2014

'He wanted some attention from her....'

Hi Michelle,   It sounds like this situation has really been eating you up inside.   Something very positive has come out of this situation, despite it having put you through the mix. You ...
30 January 2014

'She won't talk about the break up.....'

Hi Molly,   It sounds like you want the time you spent and your connection together to be more greatly acknowledged, having been together for so long.   It is admirable that you have ...
29 January 2014

'He told me that we should split up....'

Hi Anonymous, This sounds like a very confusing time for you both. Long distance relationships are extremely hard and it’s not only the time that you are together but the time that ...
29 January 2014

'They said he was involved in a stripping game.....'

Hi Katie, His friends may well have been joking- they might have known that you were listening and so played up to it, not knowing that you would react so badly. ...