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8 January 2014

He said he didn't want to leave me behind

Hi Kristy,   A year is not long to be together and if you are already worried about trust issues then it might be sign that you need to get out before ...
7 January 2014

He kept staring at me!

Hi Lauren,   Why not just text him and start up a friendship? It might be that he is too nervous to talk to you since everything that has happened. If you ...
7 January 2014

I don't see myself staying with this girl

Hi Ben,         If you have only been going out for 4 months and you are as young as you are it is not unusual to be afraid of commitment so early ...
7 January 2014

I don't know if he feels the same way!

Hi Lizzie,   A year is a long time to like someone and not find out if the feelings are reciprocated. You owe it to yourself to find out either way. Why ...
7 January 2014

Do I have a chance?

Hi Faith,   Everyone has a chance in life, but sometimes you need a little help to be able to see it.   Firstly, money is not everything, you need it to pay the ...
6 January 2014

He's had a crush on me for years!

Hi Lola, Although you don’t want to hurt your friend’s feelings, chances are you will find someone sooner or later and have to have this conversation- there is no time like ...
6 January 2014

Am I wasting my time?

Hi Christine, Since you have not been seeing each other for long it may be that he had plans which he made before you met up. However generally in the first ...
6 January 2014

Should I stay for the money?

Hi Beverly, Although in the current climate, money sounds like it should be a priority- it is not the foundation of a healthy relationship on its own. Financial security can ease ...
6 January 2014

How can I bring it up with my mom?

Hi Courtney, The important thing to remember is that your mum had all of the worries and questions that you have today when she was young, so very little will likely ...
6 January 2014

How do I maintain my relationship?

Hi Dhruv,   Relationship maintenance is all about having a good foundation- if you are friends before anything else then you have a lot to work with. Having that friendship means that ...
6 January 2014

I have so much homework but no time!

Hi Tim, The best thing with homework is to plan ahead and by priority. Make a list of the things you need to do and list them in priority order so ...
5 January 2014

I'm worried I have depression

Hi Chloe, I would strongly suggest that you go to the doctors- they won’t judge you or laugh at you because this is a very common problem now- especially in young ...
5 January 2014

We've not been intimate in 18 months

Hi Nancy, A romantic relationship is often sexual; that is what sets it apart from a friendship. That said many couples still live happily together with little or no sex. The ...
5 January 2014

I'm addicted to sex!

Hi Sarah, Often people who are addicted to sex have insecurity or a void and try to fill it with attention from the opposite sex. How do you feel about yourself ...
4 January 2014

How can I break up with him?

Hello Anonymous, If you don’t want to break up with him then perhaps suggest that he come over and talk to your Dad. You are expected to stick up for him ...
3 January 2014

I've hurt someone

Hi Hattie, We all make mistakes- it’s what we do after them which defines us more. Mistakes can be made in the heat of the moment- we say things we don’t ...
3 January 2014

My friend is too clingy!

Hi Catherine, If you are intent on not being friends with her anymore then perhaps talk to her. Tell her that you are different people now and have come to a ...
2 January 2014

Why do boys not like me?

Hi Claudia,   Being popular is not the be all and end all. It can often result in attracting the wrong kind of boy.   Perhaps you are focusing on the popular guys to ...
2 January 2014

He was drunk- can I be pregnant?

Hi Sipokazi, A few drinks can act as a confidence booster and encourage people to be less uptight about their sex life; however alcohol in large amounts can impair his sexual ...
2 January 2014

My friend tries to copy my love life!

Hi Kelsey,   Although this might be quite irritating- it’s possibly a form of flattery. She may be unsure of who she feels she should like and is taking pointers from you ...
1 January 2014

He's back to how he was in the beginning!

Hello Confused,   Your friends and family know you best and are looking out for you- any bad treatment and they will be very protective of you- so try and be mindful ...
1 January 2014

Our sex life is a problem

Hi Sam,   A common problem in many men is erectile dysfunction whereby a man can’t develop or maintain an erection during sex. There are several things that can be done to ...
31 December 2013

I'm heartbroken

Hi Brenda,   The important thing is distraction right now- go out with your friends, see your family (that is what they are there for), start a class or get a hobby. ...
31 December 2013

I still love him

Hi Grace,   Firstly you are not pathetic, you simply haven’t had any closure- the reason you are probably finding it so hard to get over is because you broke it off ...