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1 June 2015

How can I tell a guy that I don't like him back?

Perhaps honesty is the best policy here so you don't lead him on. Try to be kind in your reasons so he is not too deflated for his next relationship ...
29 May 2015

Do I have depression?

Although it's very admirable that you have plans for the future beyond university, you also need to look after yourself now. If you think you might have depression then it ...
27 May 2015

Should I change who I am to get a partner?

You can't say for certain that you have never been fancied- it just might be that the men who have found you attractive have never made a move to ask ...
24 May 2015

How can I tell my friend she has poor personal hygiene?

Personal hygiene can be a tricky subject to bring up, but there comes a point when it needs addressing as it could affect her in future, physically and mentally. For ...
23 May 2015

How can I get my sex life back with my boyfriend?

I would suggest the first thing you do is to make contact with a sex counsellor- you can find one at somewhere like Relate- the relationship people. This will give ...
22 May 2015

Why does my wife not make an effort anymore?

There is no need to be embarrassed at all- thanks for writing in. It is almost expected that when people get into a relationship, they pay less attention to their ...
21 May 2015

How can we get our sex life back on track after the foursome?

I would suggest giving him the time he has asked for- if you try before he is ready then it might just hinder his progress. Perhaps suggest some relationship counselling ...
21 May 2015

Can I let a guy know I like him with hints?

While flirting and hints get you so far, they can also be misleading. Some people are natural flirters but don't want anything more than some cheeky banter. Try to see ...
21 May 2015

Should I stay with a man who won't see his children?

It is entirely up to him if he wants to see his children or not- unfortunately- you may ever be able to change his mind on this, even if you ...
20 May 2015

Why am I so misunderstood by my fiance's family?

Even if you get on with your parents in law to be- it can be difficult living under someone else's roof. Your partner will be used to their way of ...
17 May 2015

Why has my life been turned upside down?

It seems that you feel you lack control over your life right now and are confused about where to turn. Perhaps you could write down what makes you feel this ...
16 May 2015

Is there any way to get my girlfriend back?

It is always unfortunate when plans have to get cancelled at the last minute, especially if it's been something you were both looking forward to. It seems that she might ...

15 May 2015

Why did my boyfriend lie about his sexual past?

Perhaps talk to your boyfriend about this- whoever you have spoken to might have blown this out of proportion. He may have lied to them to make them think he ...
14 May 2015

My girlfriend cheated on me- should I give her a second chance?

I would give yourself some time before deciding what you want to do here. If this only just happened then you are likely still in shock and need time to ...
12 May 2015

Will it be better for me if I break up with my boyfriend?

Perhaps you need to take a second look at how you argue. If your disagreements always involve shouting and are then left unresolved, maybe this needs more work. You could ...
12 May 2015

Should I get back with my ex because my friends say he's still into me?

The first question I would ask is why you broke up in the first place? He may still find you attractive and miss you, but if you were not a ...
12 May 2015

How can I tell her that we can't date anymore?

It is likely that many members find two people whom they have a connection with when joining a dating site- so you are no different. It might be that she ...
11 May 2015

Why am I so insecure about my weight?

It's time to stop comparing yourself to your friend as she will be a totally different build from you. No two women are alike so measuring yourself against her is ...
11 May 2015

I'm in love with my friend- should I wait for him?

Even if he is away- are you able to talk to him over the phone or go and see him to tell him how you feel? It might help to ...
7 May 2015

How can I prove myself to the woman I'm attracted to?

If there is no instant attraction there on her part, then perhaps leave it there. It may not be everything but it certainly helps in the earlier stages of relationships. ...
6 May 2015

Is my boyfriend being spineless for not standing up to his manager?

It is a positive thing that you get to spend some time with your boyfriend between working hours, many couples are not afford the same opportunity, however not at the ...
6 May 2015

How can I get my friends to spend more time with me?

I would suggest making a plan. If you are always the one who tags along with other people's arrangements it might be time to take change and come up with ...
6 May 2015

Why does my partner shut down after arguments?

It sounds like you need to work on your communication skills in your relationship. If you feel that you need to talk about your arguments and the reasons behind them, ...
5 May 2015

My partner found a sex video of me and my ex- are we over?

No-one wants to imagine their partner having sex with their ex, let alone see it, so it may take him some time to get the image out of his mind ...