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20 July 2015

Why is there no physical intimacy with my husband anymore?

Men naturally lose their sex drive as they get older as their levels of testosterone decline, so their sexual cravings differ from when they were in their twenties to when ...
17 July 2015

My husband has depression and anxiety- how can I support him?

Hi Peace, Perhaps you could talk to him about getting some alternative help, look for some counselling on his behalf and offer him the information maybe? If he won't see the ...
16 July 2015

Why did my step daughter tell me she prefers me to her real father?

Although this could be taken as a compliment it is understandable why you might have other feelings of confusion too. It is expected that most children will feel closer to ...
15 July 2015

Should I wait until he is ready for an exclusive relationship?

Perhaps the reason he messages you is because he misses your company- if you developed a strong bond quite quickly, then he may feel a void in his life since ...
15 July 2015

Should I stay in a relationship that doesn't feel right?

It sounds like there is a lot of things going on here that are making you swing back and forth in deciding if this relationship is good for you or ...
15 July 2015

Should I wait for the married man I've been seeing?

If he truly loves you, then why does he need to wait for two years? Why this specific amount of time? Has he thought through the intricacies of leaving his ...
14 July 2015

Is my boyfriend's new female friend better for him than me?

It can be difficult when a partner becomes close to someone of the opposite sex. It can feel like a threat, especially if the outside person has the same interests ...
14 July 2015

Why has my best friend stopped talking to me since I got back with my ex?

There could by many emotions wrapped up in you getting back with your ex for your best friend. They might be jealous that you have someone and they don't (if ...
14 July 2015

I have some of the signs of pregnancy- am I pregnant?

All of the signs you are showing can be attributed to periods as well as pregnancy. Your body goes through many hormonal changes throughout your period; progesterone and oestrogen can ...
13 July 2015

Should I continue paying for my best friend as well as myself?

If your living situation is becoming unbearable because of your feelings and the fact that you are struggling financially, then perhaps it's time to go your separate ways. He may ...
9 July 2015

My partner drinks a lot- is there any way through this?

Perhaps if you take some time out he might come to realise how much of a problem this is for you and try to cut back to save his relationship. ...
9 July 2015

Should I have waited for my ex?

If you are asking if it was wrong to move on before your ex- the only answer I can give is that people move on at different rates and if ...
9 July 2015

Why didn't my partner tell me he was impotent before we fell in love?

I would suggest, if you are finding it difficult to talk to each other about this, that you seek some relationship counselling like Relate. It just might help you to ...
8 July 2015

Can my marriage survive my husband being chatted up by another woman?

It is normal and natural to have a connection with someone other than your partner, just as it is to be attracted to another person- but it's what you do ...
30 June 2015

Should I tell the man I've been having an affair with that I'm in love with him?

If you feel this way and he is now single, perhaps it is the ideal time to ask him if this is going anywhere. His girlfriend might have provided a ...
30 June 2015

Should I stay by a guy who doesn't want a relationship?

It all depends if you want the same- I am gathering you are writing in because you don't. If you are happy to be in a relationship that has no ...
30 June 2015

Should I wait for my girlfriend to get over her ex?

Perhaps you leaving has come at the best time- it forces you both to have a break from one another while she decides what she wants. It sounds like you ...
29 June 2015

My boyfriend doesn't want children- should I stay or should I go?

This is a huge thing to negotiate over- especially if you are the one who is denying yourself of what you really want. It sounds like the relationship has given ...
29 June 2015

Why does my partner rush through foreplay?

You are not alone- many women find that they can't orgasm during sex and foreplay is their time to feel satisfied. The first thing I would suggest is trying a ...
26 June 2015

Did I lose my virginity?

A virgin is defined as 'someone who has never engaged in sexual intercourse', which is traditionally characterised by the penis entering the vagina- or 'vaginal intercourse' or 'vaginal sex'. The ...
24 June 2015

My boyfriend is leaving to go travelling for a year- what should I do?

This sounds like the first big test in your relationship. If you are able to get through the next year it will likely determine the rest of your time together. ...
24 June 2015

Why does my partner want to move back in with his friends?

I would first ask why he is doing this? If he is moving in with other people to save the money up for a deposit for a mortgage then maybe ...
23 June 2015

Why am I not interested in sex anymore?

This could be due to many things. Does your partner satisfy you in bed? Perhaps your old partner did and your new lover doesn't and you are comparing the two. ...

22 June 2015

Why did my friends betray me?

People take different amounts of time to get over things- there is no set limit on how long it should take to get over bad news, however it can be ...