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2 March 2014

'We had sex, then he hugged me goodbye....'

Hi Steph,  It sounds like your first experience with online dating has thrown you a little bit after this encounter. People do tend to make an effort if they like someone, yes. ...
1 March 2014

'He won't meet in person after 2 years.....'

Hi Chantelle, If people are reluctant to meet up when they have such connection with someone online it begs the question if they are who they say they are. The internet ...
28 February 2014

'She's friends with all of her exs....'

Hi Lilly, Have you considered couples counselling? If talking to her has not worked, it might be helpful to get an outsider’s perspective on the situation to emphasize how important it ...
28 February 2014

He has to work abroad

Hi Jamie, Long distance relationships are generally very difficult for couples, however many learn to find ways of coping with this strain. If everything was perfect before you found out about this, ...
28 February 2014

'I miss being together as a family.....'

Hi Nicole, Could you arrange a meeting with you all and talk about how much you miss each other- if you and your children feel the same way-this might have more ...
27 February 2014

'He said he was ok for now.....'

Hi Ella,  It sounds like he was letting you down gently by telling you he was ok at the moment. If he was interested in pursuing something in the future he ...
27 February 2014

I think I might be depressed

Hi Anonymous, It has taken tremendous courage to write in and ask this question as well as admit that you might need help- so this is already a huge step that ...
27 February 2014

'His family hate her....'

Hi Megan,   Not knowing if your love is requited when all the signals are there sounds like it can be quite frustrating for you.   Even if his current girlfriend is not well ...
26 February 2014

He's got a girlfriend and children

Hi Sue, It’s never really a good idea to be the person responsible for helping to split up a family. If he decides to break up with his girlfriend, then that ...
26 February 2014

He doesn't want children and i'm pregnant

Hi R,   Why not look into come couples counselling? After 8 years, it seems a shame to let this break you when it sounds like you have might have been through ...
25 February 2014

I think I might be pregnant- but the test was negative

Hi Beth,   You are right all of these signs can be indicative of early pregnancy. It may be that it was too early to tell on the test. I would suggest ...
25 February 2014

'My husband was with my best friend....'

Hi Daniella,   The pressure of knowing that it was a betrayal of your relationship might have been a mood killer for him, so what he is telling you might be the ...
25 February 2014

My boyfriend fooled around with my sister

Hi H,   There is always a lot of competition between sisters especially when it comes to love. The important thing to remember is that he chose you and he is with ...
24 February 2014

'I feel weird when he looks at me....'

Hi M, It is natural to feel a little rush of excitement when the person you admire looks at you. Thoughts pump around your head about why he is looking at ...
24 February 2014

'They've been sending sexy pictures to each other.....'

Hi Brideen, It goes unsaid that when a man and women marry it is unacceptable that either party sends sexually explicit pictures to another man or women outside of the relationship. ...
23 February 2014

'He's just got a job in an all female gym....'

Hi Anonymous,   If he has always wanted a job in this field, then it’s in his interest not to mess up the opportunity by flirting or crossing the line with his ...
23 February 2014

'So many things worry me about our relationship...'

Hi Amy,   Everyone has a past, you might not have been with anyone before but you will likely still have had crushes or feelings for other men. If he has not ...
23 February 2014

'He says he will try for a relationship.....'

Dear Em,   All of the things you are telling me here do sound positive and are often precursors of something more serious. But it comes down to what you want form ...
22 February 2014

'He said I can marry someone else....'

Hi Francine,   Relationships are never wasted, even if it is not the one you will spend the rest of your life in you can still learn from it.   Trust can be difficult ...
22 February 2014

I want nothing to do with my son in law.....

Hi Carol,   Any discontent in a family unit can be very stressful and hurtful for those involved. That said if your son in law is especially antagonistic and abusive towards you, ...
21 February 2014

He said he needed more time with his daughter.....

Hi Frankie,   It is normal to compare your new men to your ex, however try to focus on the reasons that you are not together and find things in the new ...
21 February 2014

'He's started talking to me again.....'

Hi Hannah,   If your intentions are that of a friendship with this guy, then you don’t really have anything to apologize for, as he has got in touch with you. However ...
21 February 2014

'He wants to get a lodger.....'

Hi Katherine,   This sounds like very difficult decision to make, given that you need the financial support as well as support from your husband.   Have you talked to him about his lack ...
20 February 2014

'I don't know if I still love him.....'

Hi Rhea,   The grass is always greener on the other side and this could simply be a case of newly married nerves. It is a big commitment to make to someone, ...