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25 March 2014

Is it ok to want 'me time' in a long term relationship?

Hi Kelly, Even if you have been together a while- moving in can still seem like a big step. The best relationships are those where both partners are comfortable doing things ...
24 March 2014

'He said he didn't want a long distance relationship...'

Hello Ritu, It sounds very difficult to feel as if you have lost a lover and friend together. His behaviour is very back and forth and it seems like its messing with ...
24 March 2014

'She wants to reassess the relationship...'

Hi Mphatso, If she has asked to reassess your relationship then perhaps give her some space to think and let her get in touch with you when she’s ready. It seems ...
24 March 2014

'He wants me to sign for a loan to go on holiday....'

Hi Hattie, If you feel strongly against getting a loan and putting your name against debt then I would suggest that you don’t. Holidays are a great time to bond with ...
23 March 2014

I don't think he loves me anymore

Hi Anonymous, There is an expectation for effort to trail off the longer you are with someone, as you get more comfortable with one another and feel like you don’t need ...
23 March 2014

'He doesn't believe me...'

Hi Hol, This sounds very frustrating for you- that you are going through all of this without the support of your partner. He is likely making it all about him because he ...
22 March 2014

'I was deeply in love......'

Hi Anne, This sounds like an awful place to be right now. Why are the people you refer to so against your relationship? Is there no way to talk to them and ...
22 March 2014

'I was scared of letting her in too close....'

Hi Michael, It sounds like you were focusing on protecting yourself after such a long relationship that you felt you couldn’t communicate with her until you had broken up and realised ...
22 March 2014

'He kissed another girl....'

Hi Alice, This sounds like a really stressful situation to be in, especially when you still feel strongly for him. You are good enough- it’s just he is finding it difficult to ...
21 March 2014

'I don't want to talk dirty to him anymore...'

Hi Jane, This sounds like an effort to spice up your sex life has gone too far now for you, if not for him. I would suggest you talk to him about ...
21 March 2014

'I'm lost and desperate....'

Hi Jason, It sounds like everything is getting on top of you right now and you have very mixed emotions for many areas and people in your life. Have you considered couples ...
20 March 2014

'We kissed in the cinema....'

Hi Emma, Taking this new guy out of the equation- do you still want to be with your boyfriend or do you feel that the long distance thing is not working? ...
20 March 2014

'I don't know whether to ask him out....'

Hi Jane, It sounds like you are getting mixed messages from this guy that you need clarifying. If you are still living with your ex, then it might not be the best ...
20 March 2014

'His mum tries to stop us seeing each other.....'

Hi Emily, It seems that currently you feel you have many barriers getting in the way of you and your partner. Perhaps focus on getting to where you want to be and ...
19 March 2014

'I caught him looking at me....'

Hi Grace, Why not arrange a party at your house and invite him along? If it’s a big affair then he won’t seem too suspicious if you invite him, or get ...
19 March 2014

'My boyfriend is self conscious about his chest...'

Hi Hannah, Perhaps talk to him and reassure him that it’s not an issue for you, but that it might be worth getting checked out by a doctor just to make ...
18 March 2014

'My Dad has cheated on my Mum again....'

Hi Millie, This sounds like an awful situation to be in- you need to express your own feelings over what’s happened but you are also concerned for your mum too. That ...
18 March 2014

'My parents and partner don't get along....'

Hi Melanie, This sounds a very tough situation to be in when you want both sides to get along but they won’t. Many families go through the same- if they love you ...
18 March 2014

I like him but I'm worried what my friends might think

Hi Gemma, It seems that you are torn between your perception of this potential relationship and what everyone else thinks of it. The most important thing to remember is that looks can ...
17 March 2014

'He told my fiance that he fancies her...'

Hi Bob, It seems like you do trust her but you don’t trust him in this situation and are frustrated by the fact that she is not acknowledging how much you ...
17 March 2014

'I can't stop thinking about him....'

Hi Charlotte, This sounds confusing when like him but believe him not to be in the same place as you. It sounds like what he needs right now is a friend. If ...
15 March 2014

'I've been in love with him for 3 years....'

Hi Moza, It sounds like you having strong feelings for this man for a long time is making you want to finally find out how he feels back. I can’t tell you ...
14 March 2014

'I broke up with her because she's moving away....'

Hi Jason, This sounds an extremely emotional situation for you both, given how much you care for each other. It seems that you have a very practical approach to this- I am ...
14 March 2014

'She loves me but we haven't met.....'

Hi Matt, It sounds like this could be confusing- when she is telling you about her strong feelings for you but not showing you with her actions. I presume that you have ...