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3 May 2014

My partner is close to his female work colleague

Hi Mel, This sounds like a very insecure place to be right now. It would be impossible to find a place of work that didn’t have someone there who was good looking, ...
2 May 2014

He says he no longer wants to get married

Hi Jennifer, This sounds like a big shock for you, that your future doesn’t match what you partner sees for you both. A mortgage and a baby are big commitments, so they ...
2 May 2014

I feel alone, yet i'm surrounded by people

Hi Lucy, This sounds like a very vulnerable place that you are in right now. Sometimes this happens- you can be surrounded by people but still feel like you are the ...
2 May 2014

I've been flirting with a mutual friend

Hi Abbie, It sounds like these are the only two close men in your life, so chances are you will always be comparing them. If things are not great between you ...
1 May 2014

Waxing vs Shaving

Hi A, The answer is they can! Waxing and shaving is a matter of preference, some women are able to wait the length of time it takes to hold off for ...
1 May 2014

My boyfriend wants me to be more like his ex

Hi Sienna, It is natural to compare your current partner to your exes, however if you feel like he is asking you to morph into another version of her then it ...
1 May 2014

My family and boyfriend don't get along

Hi Lizzie, You sound very torn between all the important people in your life right now. Your family are only looking out for your best interests, as families do, sometimes they don’t ...
30 April 2014

My daugthers hate my partner

Hi Bob, It sounds like you are trying to please everyone right now. If neither of your daughters like your partner, then chances are this is not going to change after ...
30 April 2014

I have nothing in common with my partner

Hi Gina, This sounds like a very difficult situation to cope with right now. From your short letter- I can see no positives in there about your partner or your relationship- so ...
30 April 2014

She's a lot older than me

Hi, It sounds like you are in a very passionate place with this woman and her with you. Remember that it will not always be like this- these feelings do fade ...
29 April 2014

My fiance cheated on me after we made things official

Hi Rhannon, It’s bound to still feel hurtful, especially after you were intimate and had just made your relationship official. It sounds like you are finding it difficult to move on from ...
29 April 2014

'My wife says she has no feelings for me anymore....'

Hi Tom, This sounds like an awful shock after so long. Have you talked to her about why she thinks her feelings have faded for you? Perhaps ask her exactly what it ...
29 April 2014

My boyfriend is not mature enough

Hi Emily, After 18 months the honeymoon period is bound to wear off so you will start to see cracks emerging where before you thought there were none. These things you ...
28 April 2014

'My boyfriend gets bad mood swings.....'

Hi Leah, Have you talked to him about it? This extreme change in his behaviours must be affecting him as much as it is you- as it takes a lot of ...
28 April 2014

'I want to see my daughter more....'

HI JM, Getting back with your ex is probably not the answer if you are only missing your daughter and not her. It is natural to miss your daughter, your life ...
27 April 2014

'My boyfriend thinks i'm fake and irritating.....'

Hi Kate, Love is about saying it but also showing it too. There are times in relationships where we take the other person for granted and forget to show them love ...
27 April 2014

'I want more from him.....'

Hi Maisie, If he wants to keep meeting up then that is a good sign that things might progress. What do you mean by more? Sex? A relationship? If you want ...
27 April 2014

'He's been really vague with me since our date....'

Hi Vickey, It could be that he wanted a couple of dates and that is all. He may not have had a relationship or more dates in mind when you were ...
26 April 2014

'I'm in love with my ex and my boyfriend....'

Hi Bella-Rose, Maybe what you need to do is to take some time out from both and figure out what you need and who you want to be with. It seems ...
26 April 2014

'Why didn't he ask me out when I was single?'

Hi Ally, Perhaps the reason you are looking at something to happen with this guy is because your relationship is going sour. Maybe your boyfriend does not flirt with you anymore ...
26 April 2014

'I've fallen for a married man.....'

Hi Coral, It could be that both of you are in a bit of a rut in your current relationships right now which is making you gravitate towards one another. Maybe ...
25 April 2014

'I really like him but we don't speak....'

Hi Corrine, Life is far too short to hold a grudge over a disagreement. If you like him then perhaps go over and speak to him and ask him if you ...
25 April 2014

He wants to take things slowly

Hi Cas, The chances are he is feeling a bit insecure about his next relationship after what happened to him. If he has waited four years until going out with you ...
24 April 2014

'He rarely wants to have sex anymore........'

Hi Confused, It could be that if he is watching a lot of porn in between seeing you that he feels too satisfied for sex. Men do tend to have sex ...