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12 January 2016

Why has my sex life gone stale?

Hi Sarah, It sounds like you have tried everything physically but perhaps haven't talked to your partner about this. If your efforts are going unnoticed then it might be time ...
11 January 2016

How can I help my boyfriend to be more financially savvy?

Hi Freya, If your partner isn't good with money, then perhaps you need to separate your finances. If he can't save up for a holiday, then don't book one until ...
11 January 2016

Why do I feel scared before my period?

Hi Penelope, Women experience a whole range of emotions before they get their period and one of these can be feeling vulnerable or overly sensitive. Not answering your phone and ...

8 January 2016

Why won't my girlfriend update her relationship status on Facebook?

Hi Dan, A lot of importance is placed on a Facebook relationship status now. It's the modern way of telling people you're with someone or available. That said by not ...
6 January 2016

Why don't I feel free to love again?

Hi Margaret, It will feel strange to let another person in. You might feel like you are cheating on your ex if this is the first relationship since you're separation. ...
6 January 2016

Why do I rely on my boyfriend for my happiness?

Hi GP, As you have proved- letting your happiness be dictated by your boyfriend only works some of the time as a distraction. It sounds like you might need to ...
5 January 2016

How can I balance study, family and my relationship?

Hi Deanna, It does sound like you have a lot on your plate right now. If you and your partner both work during the week, then perhaps you have your ...
5 January 2016

Is it weird that I'm wearing my boyfriend's sister's hand me down clothes?

Hi Nessa, Just because you wear their clothes doesn't mean you look like them. You might wear different combinations and accessorise them differently, which means you likely won't look the ...
4 January 2016

Why did she react so badly to me kissing her neck?

Hi Steve, Getting intimate with someone new is all about trial and error unless your partner tells you otherwise. You only get to know your lover's likes and dislikes if ...
30 December 2015

Should I contact the woman I met at the wedding?

Hi Robert, If you know you won't be seeing this girl again soon, if you want to speak to her before the next family gathering you may have to make ...

28 December 2015

My ex has asked me back- should we try again?

Hi Louise, If you have broken up and got back together three times previously, then it could be that the same problem is driving you apart each time. If you ...
26 December 2015

Should I go to the hen do or not?

Hi Betty, If you go the hen party then it may give this woman the impression that it's water under the bridge and you've moved on. If you tell everyone ...
24 December 2015

How can I help my girlfriend's anxiety?

Hi Raphael, It sounds like you have started to talk about her reactions to certain situations. It seems like her trust for you has grown if she is opening up ...

23 December 2015

Can a relationship be saved by love?

Hi Emma, A relationship has to have trust as well as love in order to function, if you don't have trust you will always struggle to be happy. It seems ...
22 December 2015

How do I avoid hurting his feelings?

Hi Alice, It may hurt him less to tell him the truth than to go out with him for a while and tell him you don't want to be with ...
21 December 2015

Why won't my friend make plans with me anymore?

Hi Confused Friend, If she still bothers with thoughtful gifts and is there for you when you need her to be, then perhaps she still wants to be friends with ...
20 December 2015

My partner's parents are getting back together for the wrong reasons- what can I do?

Hi Amelia, It may be best to stay out of this one- if you get involved then it may only cause more upset within the family unit. It is always ...
19 December 2015

Should I end my relationship or wait and see if any feelings develop?

Hi Anonymous, Often a gut reaction is there for a reason, however sometimes you can be proved wrong. Although he might be dating you- getting along with your family can ...
18 December 2015

Should I work abroad with my boyfriend next year?

Hi Tina, If you are unsure what to do with your future, then perhaps this would give you the time to figure out what it really is you want to ...
17 December 2015

My wife won't have a threesome, should I just watch porn instead?

Hi Andy, Although watching porn might satisfy your itch for an orgasm it won't improve things with your wife. Have you spoken to her about your sex life? Perhaps this ...
16 December 2015

How can I get over my college crush?

Hi Nalini, It sounds like you need to make a decision of whether you want him in your life as a friend or whether you could move on faster if ...
15 December 2015

How do I break away from a bad friend?

Hi Lisa, If people believe the things she's saying then they're not your friends either. If she is trying to blacken your name, then the people who love you and ...
10 December 2015

Why doesn't he want us to be exclusive till the New Year?

Hi Lucy, It does seem like an odd request given that he has told you he loves you- so why not ask him? I’m sure if it was the other way ...
9 December 2015

Why does my best friend never check up on me?

Hi Janet, Some friends are fair weather friends and are only there when things are going well; others are there through the thick and thin. Perhaps your friend is the ...