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24 February 2016

My sibling wants to bring their new partner to my birthday- will it steal all the attention from me?

Hi Sarah, It is understandable that for one day of the year you want to be the centre of attention- a birthday is generally focused on the person one whose ...
23 February 2016

My friend is going through IVF- how can I support her during this time?

Hi Clara, I would suggest taking her lead on this one. If she wants to talk about it- whatever the result- then let her, she needs to feel that she ...
18 February 2016

I hate my new job- should I leave?

Hi Joe, If you were in your old job for a while, it will take a period of adjustment before this new one or any new one becomes the norm. ...
17 February 2016

I've just got engaged but my family don't like my partner- what should I do?

Hi R, Although it's hard not to have the support of everyone when you make a big step with your partner, sometimes you have to learn to ignore their negativity ...
16 February 2016

My friend just came out as gay- so why do I think my partner will do the same?

Hi Emma, It sounds like what happened with your friend has made you overly sensitive to the possibility of your partner doing the same thing. Even if you were not ...
8 February 2016

How can I get my friend to stop copying me?

Hi Kirsty, There are several things you can do to deal with someone who copies you. Firstly I would ask why it makes you so angry- do you like to ...
5 February 2016

Why is my friend being funny with me?

Hi Melissa, It sounds like she is very sensitive and private about her medical condition so perhaps she has been 'funny' with you because she's angry that it's got on ...
5 February 2016

My friend is demanding things from me after helping me out- how should I handle it?

Hi Natalie, If he helped you to study, then you could return the favour. It doesn't sound like you agreed that if you got a job you would pay him ...
3 February 2016

We have only had sex twice in six months and are both insecure- do we have a future?

Hi Kerry, Sex with someone new can be 'rubbish'- because neither of you knows what the other likes or what their preferences are and you might struggle to get into ...
3 February 2016

How do I confront my friends after they told other people my secrets?

Hi Paula, It can be scary to confront someone who has wronged you especially when their betrayal has been told to you by someone else. If you feel that you can't ...
1 February 2016

Does my husband of 31 years still have feelings for his ex?

Hi Winnie, The reality is- your husband had a past before you and he got together. Everyone has a history that doesn't involve their current partner because no couple has ...
1 February 2016

How can I persuade my boyfriend to let me move in with him?

Hi Michaila, It makes sense that he would want to move into a new home with you. His house now may hold many memories for him of past relationships which ...
28 January 2016

Why does my friend undermine me so much?

Hi Rosie, First of all this woman is not your friend- it sounds like she never lifts you up with her words and is always putting you down. True friends ...
27 January 2016

How can I help my partner to feel better about work?

Hi Tracey, If he refuses to speak to a professional about it then I would suggest all you can do is be there for him as much as you can. ...
25 January 2016

How can I tell my roommate I'm seeing someone else after he told me he loved me?

Hi Amy, If you get on well with him and you spent a large amount of time together last term, perhaps he formed a connection because you were the only ...
25 January 2016

How can I tell the people I work with I don't want to go out drinking with them?

Hi Maddy, There is nothing wrong with ducking out of something you know you won't enjoy. If you were to go and it was obvious you didn't enjoy it- then ...
22 January 2016

Why do I enjoy getting attention from guys so much?

Hi Lucie, There is nothing wrong with a little harmless flirtation- it can be a lot of fun. If you are not having sex with these men then you don't ...

21 January 2016

Why doesn't my partner initiate sex?

Hi Leeza, It may just be that you have mismatched sex drives. He may have a naturally low libido and you a high one. It doesn't necessarily mean that his ...
21 January 2016

Should I move back home?

Hi Queenie, I would suggest making a list of the pros and cons of moving back home. Be really honest with yourself in your choices and you might find there ...
20 January 2016

Why did my boyfriend break up with me?

Hi Kirsty, If he is telling the truth when he says that you didn't do anything then perhaps you can offer to talk to him. He may think that his ...
19 January 2016

Why is my roommate making me so unhappy?

Hi Caridee, It sounds like this girl is not really someone you can call your friend. Friends are there to lift us up and make us feel better about ourselves ...
18 January 2016

I was still on my period when I had sex with my boyfriend- will he think i'm disgusting?

Hi Erin, You are not the first and you won't be the last woman to think her period is over, have sex and find that it's not. Some couples enjoy ...
18 January 2016

Should I give my friend some money?

Hi Mel, Letters are always a good way of explaining everything thoroughly and clearly. You can explain all the things you have to me- about spreading your good fortune, not ...
14 January 2016

Why do we keep going back and forth in our relationship?

Hi Angie, If what you really want is something more serious, then it might be worth telling him that you don't want this ambiguity in your relationship anymore. The sex ...