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22 August 2016

My husband and I want different things from retirement- what should I do?

Hi Beth, It's possible that your partner might be happy to do these things but is not good at being the one to instigate and organise them. Perhaps you could ...
19 August 2016

Am I being too friendly with the customers at work?

Hi Monica, As much as you have a responsibility to be the first point of contact and as helpful as you can be, there are limits to what you should ...
18 August 2016

How can I accept my partner's love?

Hi Shelley, I would advise you to go to your doctor and ask for a referral to a counsellor or seek one out privately. It sounds like you are still ...
18 August 2016

I'm married but have a crush on my best friend- what can I do to make these feelings stop?

Hi Lucy, As with crushes at any age or any stage of your life, it should pass. You have already acknowledged what it is so it will likely fade away ...
18 August 2016

I'm married but I kissed my work colleague- what should I do?

Hi Sharon, Often when couples have been together for a while, the laughing and joking reduces when the responsibilities and pressures grow. The flirting, the flattery and the compliments can ...
17 August 2016

My childhood crush likes me now- should I date him?

Hi Dilemma Girl, If you have moved on and no longer find him attractive or feel a connection then it might be kinder to tell him that you want to ...
17 August 2016

He slept with someone else while we were on a break- should I forgive him?

Hi Jenny, If he genuinely thought that your intentions were not real the first time, then this could explain why he looked elsewhere if he needed to feel physically close ...
17 August 2016

Is he interested in me or not?

Hi Everlyn, It might help you to try and get him to commit to a time, location and date rather than just a casual promise of meeting up. That way ...
16 August 2016

What has happened to my sex drive?

Hi Emma, There are many reasons for lack of libido in women and one of these is coined post baby 'coolness' which can happen after childbirth. There are so many ...
16 August 2016

Why do I feel guilty for not sleeping with him?

Hi Confused, There is no specific pace a relationship is supposed to take- it's all dependent on what feels right for you both. If you aren't ready to sleep with ...
16 August 2016

Why can't I believe in myself the way he does?

Hi Sahra, The most important thing is you know that this partner is caring, genuine and loving and that he is different from the rest. You recognise that you might ...
15 August 2016

I'm lonely and not sure what to do about it- can you help?

Hi Sarah, It sounds like any time spent with your friends now needs to be planned in advance, to ensure you are all free. Perhaps you could instigate your next ...
15 August 2016

I'm not pregnant so why have I missed so many periods?

Hi Vanessa, It is possible that if you're stressed you can miss one or more periods. The body is sensitive to any disruptions to your normal routines and feelings. Stress ...
15 August 2016

Why won't my mum leave me alone to work at home?

Hi Anu, I would suggest thinking very carefully about marrying someone only to get away from your mother. Marriage should be about love and something you do when you're ready. ...
4 August 2016

Why have I got a rash in my pubic region?

Hi Anonymous, Waxing is generally better than shaving for reducing ingrown hairs in the pubic region, however, it's still possible to have a few in that area post waxing. Are ...
3 August 2016

My partner's worried that I've left my house to my daughter in my will- what should I do?

Hi Philip, If it's legally your house- you are entitled to give it to whomever you want in your will. Many parents will act in the interests of their child ...
2 August 2016

Why am I so turned on by raincoats?

Hi Peter, Perhaps your wife is not keen because it's an unusual thing to be turned on by. It's possible she isn't aware of how passionate you are. Perhaps you ...
21 July 2016

How can I tell my girlfriend I don't want to live with her anymore?

Hi Ted, Moving in with your partner is a period of adjustment, especially if you have both moved from living with your parents. Not only do you have to learn ...
19 July 2016

My partner no longer wants kids or to get married- what should I do?

Hi Gemma, Some things can be negotiated over, however something as big as this can be more difficult to overcome. If you love him- perhaps ask yourself- is that enough? ...

14 July 2016

Why didn't my husband take any pictures of me at my daughter's wedding?

Hi Jennifer, Chances are the professionals got some photos of you in the more staged shots that are commonplace on a wedding day. There are probably pictures of you that ...
12 July 2016

Why doesn't it happen every time we have sex?

Hi Rose, It sounds like you might want more fulfilment in your sex life. If this is the case it might be worth talking to him about it so you ...

20 June 2016

How can I ask my friend to move out?

Hi Jackie, It sounds like you weren't anticipating your son moving back in with you. Perhaps you could talk to her and explain that you want your son to be ...
17 June 2016

Why can't my partner apologise to me?

Hi Sarah, You mention that you have talked to him about this before. So perhaps it it might be time to explore with him why he feels he can't accept ...
14 June 2016

Why does my husband show me up in public?

Hi Bella, When someone tries to shift the focus onto their partner in a negative way- it's often because of they are feeling negative about themselves. It's a diversion tactic ...