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10 December 2020

I have made sacrifices, why won't my husband do the same?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “This is a really tough one. I think there is very little chance of you persuading your husband, at this stage in his life and ...
8 December 2020

My girlfriend only wants one thing from our relationship- should I settle or push for more?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “My answer will be dictated a lot by your ages and the circumstances of your lives, and sadly you don’t give those details. If you ...
6 December 2020

Does the fault lie with me or him?

Firstly, don’t beat yourself up over this and please don’t over think the situation. Naturally you’re upset and feel used, especially now he has ended the relationship saying he felt ...
2 December 2020

I've thought about it for eight years, should I do something about it?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I think it is inevitable that you are going to sleep with this other guy. If not him, then someone else in the not too ...
1 December 2020

How can I get over what I found in my boyfriend's emails?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I have every sympathy with your boyfriend here. It sounds to me that he has handled this situation brilliantly and is worthy of your trust. ...
30 November 2020

My boyfriend's behaviour is dangerous, what can I do?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “I think the most important line in your letter is the first one: ‘I love my boyfriend.’ The second most important line comes shortly after ...
23 November 2020

Is my boyfriend addicted or is he avoiding me?

I’m so sorry to hear of your dilemma it must be very difficult for you, especially as you have a young child together. If, as you say your partner is ...

23 November 2020

Am I being unreasonable to ask for this one thing for my baby?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “I can see both sides of this argument. You are approaching the most momentous time of your life - you are perfectly entitled to bring ...
14 November 2020

How can I distract myself from the situation me and my boyfriend are in?

You are fearing loneliness.  There’s the loneliness of missing a loved one due to distance.  Then there’s the loneliness of feeling alone because we have no one to call close, or, the ...
12 November 2020

How can I get over THAT time in my life?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “I would love to know how long ago this incident occurred. I am hoping it was fairly recent - in the last couple ...

11 November 2020

Will I be judged by people for feeling this way?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “I am sorry if I sound overly negative but this guys sounds like a total nightmare and you should forget any thoughts about ...
10 November 2020

Will people think I'm strange for never having done this?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “First of all, it is important to stress that you are not ‘strange’ and there is nothing unusual in your predicament. There are ...
28 October 2020

Should I ask my husband to get a DNA test?

Mig Bennett says: You don’t say how your husband feels about the unexpected contact from his daughter, but it reads as very unsettling for you. Our ‘secure attachment bond’ of ...
27 October 2020

Does he have hidden feelings for me?

Rachael Lloyd, relationship expert from eHarmony says: Hi there, Beware of intermittent flattery. This guy who is already in a relationship has you exactly where he wants you. He can ...
15 September 2020

My best friend has lost the plot- any advice?

Rachael Lloyd from eHarmony says: Hi there, Firstly, let me say you sound like a lovely friend. You are genuinely worried about your friend when you could simply be judgemental and ...
14 September 2020

How much time can I reasonably give to this relationship that's going nowhere?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “You are right to be concerned. I see very little prospect of this man helping you to achieve your dreams of marriage and motherhood. He ...
13 September 2020

Our relationship is very bog standard- any advice?

Rlationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “Your boyfriend sounds like he is a very selfish lover. It makes me wonder if he is selfish in other aspects of his life. I ...
4 September 2020

My mother sees things that aren't there- any advice?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: “You mum is 90 so you have every reason to be worried about her for all manner of reasons - not least the ...
3 September 2020

Is my boyfriend using Covid as an excuse to avoid me?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: “You are not being selfish at all and I have every sympathy with your predicament. Covid is the most awful nightmare for so ...
1 September 2020

I hate myself for what I did with my best friend- any advice?

Being intimate with a friend is one of the things in life that is difficult to undo once done. I wonder if you’re hating that fact rather than yourself? I ...
20 August 2020

Why is my husband so stingy?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: “You are right to be concerned: your husband sounds like a nightmare. Let’s start with the issue of money. I think tight-fistedness is ...
18 August 2020

I get anxious whenever my boyfriend does anything without me- any advice?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: “The first thing you need to address is whether your anxiety pre-dates your relationship with your boyfriend. I suspect that it does and ...
15 July 2020

Does she regard me in the same way I do her?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: “I don’t see what you have got to lose by confessing your feelings for your friend. You have been struggling with this issue ...
10 July 2020

Am I a cheapskate?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: “What a sad situation and it does sound like you have been very unfairly treated. You shouldn’t feel bad about not carrying cash ...