Encouraging your child to do as much as he's capable of is part of parenting. These tips may guide you in the right direction.
The journey towards becoming an independent adult starts in babyhood, with your child wanting to try things for himself.
You may find it hard to keep up when your child switches from being demanding one minute to being clingy and afraid to let go of you the next. Such rapid mood swings are common - and may even take your toddler by surprise sometimes!
It helps to try to understand the emotional world of a small child and the confusion they often feel.
A lot of the time, though, your toddler will just do the opposite of what you want. He may run off when you try to dress him, for example, or tip out toys you want packed away - he just can't help himself.
He may also seem to resent almost any form of control by you. He wants to get dressed by himself and feed himself - the contrary behaviour that results from this is quite normal, even if you find it irritating.
Separation anxiety and clingy behaviour often starts at around nine months and can go on well into the second year, or even longer.
It's partly because you're the most important person in your child's life. A fear of strangers and separation from you is completely natural.
You may find it quite annoying when your toddler acts in this way. It may be because you need him to be able to manage without you - you may be returning to work or having time for yourself, for example. On the other hand, you may like it, as it makes you feel needed.
If your child clings to you even when you're simply going about your everyday business at home or at the shops, try to stay calm and carry on. It may not be easy to make lunch or talk to someone while your child's clamped on to you, but he'll feel more secure soon.
Most of all, be patient - your toddler will eventually feel ready to be more independent. It's security and reassurance that helps a child feel safe enough to 'let go'.