You can spend hours, days, months, writing them and getting them just wright, but after the big day is over can you remember them?
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Illicit encounters found that those in committed relationships were less likely to remember their vows, whereas those who have cheated can remember them like it was yesterday!
Rosie Freeman-Jones, spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com, the UK's largest website for married people adds:
"We ran a survey asking our members how many of them could recall their marriage vows and a staggering 86% told us they could. I guess that they can be at the forefront of one's mind when you are thinking of breaking them, or already have".
As disappointing as it might sound that your man can't remember those words he said to you on the most special day of your life, you can rest assured that he is probably being faithful to you!
Despite being unfaithful being one of the worst offences and probably the one that carries most weight out of them all, it is often the breaking of the other vows that are the precursors to this one being forgotten.
Neglecting vows such as respecting the other person, supporting your partner and loving them for better or for worse can mount up to the point of having an affair. Affairs are the aftermath of attention being craved elsewhere because it is lacking at home, not the cause.
*Sonia, 38 from York and an IllicitEncounters.com member tells us:
"I meant every one of my vows on my wedding day to my husband, I wouldn't have said them if I didn't. I believed we would be together forever, but as we hit our fifth year of marriage we had become completely different people and unable to move forward, we separated shortly after. I am happily dating now and I would marry again, only my vows a second time around would definitely be different, and I see that as a positive learning curve from my first marriage ending.'
Many couples are opting for a less traditional approach to vows by writing their own, however if the 'thou shalt be faithful' vow is omitted surely this can be interpreted as having no such rule to adhere to. If vows are ignored, then this can be the recipe for disaster with one or both members of the couple seeking missing elements of the vows from another willing candidate.
Many people believe by renewing vows it ascertains whether what was important back then is now. By spending time refreshing the key ingredients they put into the marriage in the first place, more attention can be put into keeping them alive.
Can a promise made years ago be carried thought the rest of your lives together? Do you think about the vows you made every time you make a decision about your relationship? Or are vows like a CV, that need constant tinkering in order to keep it pertinent to the person you are today? Vows can be the basis upon which to build and a slight deviation can be acceptable, however complete disregard can result in dissolution.
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