www.vouchercodespro.co.uk have found that after the wedding day, bridesmaids tend to be cast from the brides life once their role of supporting the leading lady is over. We find out why!
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Disagreements about bridesmaid dress style/colour
The bride has an idea in her mind of what dress she wants her maids to wear- but perhaps it doesn’t suit all of their body shapes and one or more are uncomfortable all day. Perhaps the colour doesn’t suit them and they let the bride know that they are not fond of it- even though it’s in-keeping with the colour scheme of the day. Clothes shopping can be fraught with anxiety at the best of times but when it comes to bridesmaid dresses the tension can be increasingly bad.
Disagreements about bridesmaid hair styles
Some brides want their bridesmaids to be uniform- all in the same dress with the same hairstyle- some maids don’t like the hairstyle and resent the bride for the rest of their days for making them look silly all in the name of looking like the person stood next to them.
Disagreements about hen do arrangements
Some bridesmaids are expected to fork out payment for all of the hen do stuff and organization, whereas others are not expected to pay out anything and the bride arranges it all. Some maids may interpret this as not being trusted with the responsibility of arranging a party when it has been something they have looked forward to as part of thier role. With everyone on a tight budget now, expecting the maids to foot the bill for one and sometimes two parties can be reason for some crossed words before or after the event.
Arguments over ‘upstaging’ the bride
Some girls have a real knack for getting too drunk, or announcing some big news on the bride’s wedding day, which totally takes the shine from the two main people. Some might do it deliberately and some might not even know that it is one of their faults, but either way it can cause arguments and falling out after it’s all over.
One or more of my bridesmaids not liking one another
If you are bringing together people who don’t normally hang out- sisters of your family in law to be, your friends and or cousins for example, personalities can clash and the bride might take sides depending on who she is closest to!
Jealousy about my big day
Some maids might be jealous of the bride if they don’t have a partner yet, or they covet the bride's lifestyle or extravagant wedding day- which can make for a very grumpy and resentful member of the wedding party on the big day.
Insecurities with regards to appearance
For some girls, being asked to be a bridesmaid can be a lovely feeling, until the reality sets in that they have to put on a dress that they might not like, have their hair done in a style that they hate and have to be stand in front of loads of people and be photographed all day. Some women are shy and don't like to be the centre of attention which is really what being a bridesmaid is all about and can make things quite uncomfortable.
Inappropriate behavior
With the tradition that one of the bridesmaids is supposed to get off with one (or more!) of the best man/men- the pressure can be simply too much and the bridesmaids could resort to hitting on the groom, either of the fathers or to fit in with expectation- the best man/men too. All of which are either inappropriate and in many cases unwanted advances.
George Charles, spokesperson for www.VoucherCodesPro.co.uk, made the following comments regarding the results of the study:
“They say that hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, and that seems especially true when her wedding is involved! The results of our study seem to show that even the strongest friendships can be damaged through the stress of organizing a wedding, and that perhaps brides should think very carefully before making any major decisions about exactly who can take on such a responsibility as being a bridesmaid.”
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