'Do You Take Yourself To Be...'
After Nadine Schweigert opened up about why she married herself in a commitment ceremony, it sparked interest and questioned whether we really need someone else to make us happy, but is she onto a winner or just plain crazy?
After going through a painful divorce in which she lost her children to her ex-husband, Nadine told Anderson Cooper that she married herself to celebrate how far she has come since the divorce.
Nadine may have got the right idea when it comes to who you want to spend the rest of your life with, it is important to learn to love yourself, especially before you can love anyone else, and there won’t be any nasty surprises.
You’ve heard the saying ‘If you want something doing properly, do it yourself’? Well, you’d be safe in the knowledge that everything in your life would be done to the standard you like as you’d be the only one to do it.
On a serious note, maybe she really has got it right. Relationships can be just one disappointment after another, and ‘The One’ that we all dream up in our heads rarely exists.
We spend a considerable amount of our time focusing on how to make ourselves seem more appealing to everyone but ourselves, to no avail.
Why not try to impress ourselves more often? Make us more attractive to ourselves; really try to focus on loving who we are, instead of moulding ourselves into something different for every other Tom, Dick and Harry?
I mean, I do think this Nadine takes it a little far. She told Anderson Cooper that she takes herself out for dates, and blows a kiss to herself in the mirror whilst saying ‘Have fun sweetheart, love you’ before she leaves the house.
That really is bordering on crazy. I also don’t doubt that there are people who would marry themselves simply because they just love themselves and it would give their ego a super boost, as well as the size of their head.
Some would say that being married to yourself is quite a sad existence, that nobody else wants you, that you’ll live a lonely life, but if you’re happy that way then what does it matter to anyone else.
I can certainly see the appeal, but I think I’ll just stick with leaving my options open. I can’t make that kind of commitment, not even to myself.
Cara Mason