Tori Spelling ordered her nannies to take time off while she was in hospital.
The reality TV star was treated as an in-patient for six days for a migraine last month, leaving husband Dean McDermott - who has admitted to cheating on his wife last December - to take care of their kids Liam, 7, Stella, 5, Hattie, 2, and Finn, 20 months.
A source told RadarOnline.com: "Dean was forced to take care of the kids on his own, at Tori's direction. They employ two nannies, one part-time, who takes Liam and Stella to school, picks them up, and helps with homework. The other nanny is full time and helps Tori at home with the younger children, Hattie and Finn. It was so typical of Tori to do, and extremely passive aggressive. She also told the crew filming to not help Dean at all with the kids, as they have done when Tori is home. As soon as Tori came home, the nannies reappeared."
The 'True Tori' star - whose latest reality show is chronicling the couple's struggles to save their marriage - is also said to have stopped her spouse spending much time in hospital with her.
The source added: "She wasn't going to allow it. Tori demanded that he take care of the kids....there is absolutely no reason why Dean couldn't have gone with her, or visited more. He very much wanted to, and the fact that the producer was calling to give him updates speaks volumes about the status of their relationship."
Friends of the couple have now slammed their behaviour, insisting they are letting their problems get in the way of their children's needs.
The source said: "The two of them are extremely messed up, and have tons of insecurities... The fact they have four innocent kids that they are exposing to all of this chaos with the cameras is just selfish and disgusting."
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