Hanna asks:

Hi Lucy,

 

I’ve being having thoughts that I’m a lesbian what should I do? 

Hi Hanna,

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Agony Aunts on Female First

I would suggest that perhaps you sign up to one of the many forums that are out there who support people just like yourself who are unsure of your sexuality. This will help you to be able to talk to like-minded people and get some advice if you want it.

Perhaps check out some local gays bars with your friends or as part of an LGBT group and try to get out there and meet people. The more you feel comfortable talking and exploring your feelings the better understanding you might have of where you want to take this.

Chances are you won’t know until you have tried being in a relationship with a woman if it feels right for you. You might find that you are more attracted to women, or both men and women. If the idea of being with a man repulses you then it is certainly worth trying to explore this further.

Many women find that they are attracted to other women even if they are not a lesbian. We are generally much more open about finding a member of the same sex attractive than men are. So try to discover if this is just an appreciation or a jealousy you have of other women or if you actually want to pursue a same sex relationship.


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