It's not working.

Ally writes:

I've been with my partner for 14 years. We have 3 children one which is not his.

I had a hystorectomy 3 yrs ago and Im only 39 now.

We are constantly arguing he says im not the same person I dont love him the same i dont talk to him the same im just not the same anymore.

I don't even feel I can talk to him anymore. But hes says its all my fault im really getting down im not happy

Yin's Answer

A lot of people reach a stage in a relationship where they go through a rough patch and are convinced that it isn't working.

Sit down and talk to each other about it. What is it that is making you argue so much? Can you address whatever it is and sort it out between you.

Maybe you should make some changes around the home or to your daily routines in order to prevent so many arguments from occuring?

You need to TALK to each other, and not argue while you try to sort it out. Think of your children.

Yang's Answer

Your mentioning of the hysterectomy tells me that you still have a lot of issues about this, perhaps that you saw yourself having more children than you have done?

This is something that if it is eating away at you that you may find will cause problems within your relationship.

Talk to your partner about it, and perhaps seek professional help, and maybe this will help you to work through any other issues and save your relationship.