First Date
With that in mind, it is vital to be fully prepared to make a great impression. Here are 10 tips for guys on dating success and making an impression that will last.
1.Shower/bathe
One of the worst things you can do when going out on a first date, (or even a second/third) is to turn up smelly, grubby and unshaven. Women love a clean well groomed man and don't believe any opinions to the contrary. Reverse the roles and how would you feel if when you arrive for your date she turns up with tangled hair and smelling like she hadn't showered for days.
A woman loves to be complimented, to feel beautiful and to think that you are attracted to her
It doesn’t cost anything to take a bath and to make an effort to look and smell nice, body odour is a big no. Don't forget oral hygiene, bad breath is an instant turn off and she will assume that this is how you are all the time, after all this is the first date and you are trying to impress.
2. Punctuality
Don’t turn up late. Arriving late will send out all the wrong message. First up she may think she's been stood up, but after arriving late her opinion will change to you being unreliable or not bothering enough about her to be on time. If you are picking her up from her home then it is advisable to turn up five minute before you are due. Any earlier and you might catch her adjusting her makeup or still getting ready. Five minutes early is acceptable but five minutes late - definately NOT!
3. A Thoughtful Gift
Make her feel special give her a thoughtful gift. If you have had phone calls with her or have got to know her before taking her out on a first date then you will have a few ideas on what she likes. Take what you know and buy her an appropriate date gift. If for example the woman really likes tennis, then get her a chocolate tennis set, there are companies that will put together - a miniature chocolate racket with a chocolate tennis ball. If you do not know enough then a nice gift would be a chocolate rose, always appropriate without being over the top..
4. The perfect gentleman
Hold the door open for her, let her walk through the doors first, pull her chair, and be polite to her along with the people around you. Ladies like to feel special and by treating her like a lady she will think you are fantastic.
5. Compliment Her
Remember say to her how beautiful she looks before you even ask how she is. Keep up the compliments throughout your date, but do not go over board as a rule three to four during the date should be more than enough. A woman loves to be complimented, to feel beautiful and to think that you are attracted to her. The more sincere and observant your compliment, the bigger impact it will have. But do not to go over the top as too many compliments may make you appear insincere and false.
6. Listen
Listen to her and ask questions, nobody wants to spend the whole night listening to someone talk about themselves. But you do have to get to know each other. Ask her questions, but more importantly listen to her answers, genuine interest in hearing what she has to say is an attractive feature to a woman. Spend a lot more time asking her questions and letting her talk than talking yourself.
7. Prepare for talk
The last thing you want is 'long silences', to be sitting at a meal with nothing to talk about. Think about your date and what you would like to know about her. You may think that it is easy to talk and that you will not run out of questions to ask or that you will automatically have the answers but until you are in the situation, you have no idea what it will be like. Avoid talking about past partners while on the date. Keep your focus, attention, and conversation fully on her.
8. Paying
It's virtually always appropriate for a gentleman to offer to pay for the date. When a man takes it upon himself to pay for the date, he is displaying that old act of "chivalry" that is missing from many men these days. However, some women feel more comfortable going "dutch" and if she insists on this, then don't resist. To avoid awkwardness, make sure you let her know before the date that you plan on paying for it.
9. The Kiss
Some women prefer not to kiss after a first date, while others may be disappointed if the guy doesn't even try. This is an area that has no easy answer unfortunately your on your own here. But a few tips to help you decide - body language and chemistry throughout the night is key in the decision you make. If it feels right, then you may want to consider making the move. If it doesn't feel right then a friendly hug may be more appropriate.
10. Second date
At the end of the date remember only tell her that you will call her if you really mean it and intend to see her again. Do not, under any circumstances, tell her you will call her if you are not interested and have no plans to call her. If this is the case, when saying goodbye, just say, "It was nice meeting you" and wish her luck, or just say good night, smile and walk away. But if you do like her and are interested, then you must let her know.
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