Posted: Thu Jul 20, 2006 7:34 pm Post subject: Please help me, should I move out of b/f's house?!
I live with my b/f but do not pay rent becasue we prefer to think that we do not actually live together since much of my belongings are still in my parent's house. However, I do everything there as I would in my own house.
We have been together almost 2 yrs and I'm not sure why he hasn'r proposed yet. He tells me he wants our relationship to improve first but I feel that we are doing great. What relationship doesn't have problems? All couples argue, right? Anyway, I am seriously contemplating moving out so he will start to feel the urge to commit to me. Plus, I think he feels financially burdened supporting 2 people. I have made it clear to him in the beginning that I feel that it is wrong for me to pay half of things when we're not even married. This is why we tell people that we technically don't live together. But don't get me wrong, I pay for things here and there and buy himclothes, etc. In addtion, I cooka dn clean for him. We're basically married but I want him to want ot commit to me. What should i do? Should I move out and start my own life?
Posted: Mon Jul 24, 2006 11:26 pm Post subject: Re: Please help me, should I move out of b/f's house?!
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Anyway, I am seriously contemplating moving out so he will start to feel the urge to commit to me.
If you like to think it or not - you DO live together, and he has comminted.
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Plus, I think he feels financially burdened supporting 2 people. I have made it clear to him in the beginning that I feel that it is wrong for me to pay half of things when we're not even married.
Why are you unwilling to pay for half? Yes it is a burden to support another person.
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This is why we tell people that we technically don't live together. But don't get me wrong, I pay for things here and there and buy himclothes, etc. In addtion, I cooka dn clean for him.
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We're basically married but I want him to want ot commit to me. What should i do? Should I move out and start my own life?
I feel very sorry for the bloke. You DO live together - yet you don't pull your own weight AND you are demanding more from him.
Why the hell should he give it to you. I bet he is thinking like me... once you are married you'll come up with yet more excuses.
Why don't you concertrate on becoming more of a honourable girlfriend than a wife.
You live together, whats with the lying about it? You need to be contributing, why arent you? He obviously is bothered by it. I would get your lives together and figure all that out before you worry about getting married.
That's exactly what i was going to say. contribute. your statement belongs in the 18th century You can't "cook and clean" for him in return for him supporting you. and why is it so important for you to be married? 2 years is usually not long enough to have known each other or been together to get married. and im speaking from a girl's point of view here.
I live with my b/f but do not pay rent becasue we prefer to think that we do not actually live together since much of my belongings are still in my parent's house. However, I do everything there as I would in my own house.
We have been together almost 2 yrs and I'm not sure why he hasn'r proposed yet. He tells me he wants our relationship to improve first but I feel that we are doing great. What relationship doesn't have problems? All couples argue, right? Anyway, I am seriously contemplating moving out so he will start to feel the urge to commit to me. Plus, I think he feels financially burdened supporting 2 people. I have made it clear to him in the beginning that I feel that it is wrong for me to pay half of things when we're not even married. This is why we tell people that we technically don't live together. But don't get me wrong, I pay for things here and there and buy himclothes, etc. In addtion, I cooka dn clean for him. We're basically married but I want him to want ot commit to me. What should i do? Should I move out and start my own life?
Good lord, where is the equality in this relationship? If you start off with the attitude that someone else is going to pay for you, whoever it is, there will be a price to pay for it later down the line. Nothing in life comes for free. Forget the marriage thing (if only for a while) and strive to become an emancipated woman instead.
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You can't "cook and clean" for him in return for him supporting you. and why is it so important for you to be married? 2 years is usually not long enough to have known each other or been together to get married. and im speaking from a girl's point of view here.
