WHY WONT HE MARRY ME?

[Felicias]

I'm sorry to break it to ya, but he doesn't want to marry you. He has a wife already, why would he want strings? (other than the one he uses to keep you) He gets a maid, a cook and a lay. what could be better?

That's what happens when you move in and play house with no commitment. Living together is not a commitment.

How long should you wait? Do you have eternity?

Living together can very well be a commitment.

[k9trainingbiz]

Obviously not the kind she wants.

[Felicias]

Obviously not the kind she wants.

Yes, but it still stands that ''just'' living together can very well be a commitment.

[Miss4Ever]

Yes, I'm also a saddo that typed in "Why won't he marry me". Having bailed out of a 14 year relationship with one commitment phobe I seem to have stumbled across a two-year relationship with ANOTHER CP!! Where do I find these guys? Obviously I'm like a bee to a honeypot there...
It's not that I'm desperate to get married, but when you are in your 36th year and never had the chance to walk down the aisle in an off-white number (I have 2 children) you do start to mull over the queston "Why me. What's wrong with me?" It would just be sooo lovely to have a man WANT to commit to YOU on that level, to WANT to spend the rest of his life with you... Well good luck fellow singletons... I hope you get your big day soon!! x

[Mr A]

Yes, I'm also a saddo that typed in "Why won't he marry me". Having bailed out of a 14 year relationship with one commitment phobe I seem to have stumbled across a two-year relationship with ANOTHER CP!! Where do I find these guys? Obviously I'm like a bee to a honeypot there...
It's not that I'm desperate to get married, but when you are in your 36th year and never had the chance to walk down the aisle in an off-white number (I have 2 children) you do start to mull over the queston "Why me. What's wrong with me?" It would just be sooo lovely to have a man WANT to commit to YOU on that level, to WANT to spend the rest of his life with you... Well good luck fellow singletons... I hope you get your big day soon!! x

there's probably nothing wrong with you at all
it's just the commitment part that comes with marriage
everything seems so final. you are forever bound to that person till death do you part. you shall never touch another woman again..etc etc
while your man probably intends (right now) to be with you always and does not intend to stray while he is with you ..the thought of marriage to a man often comes with thoughts of thier freedom being taken away.. the shackles are coming on ..(it's kinda hard for me to put it into words or explain)

If/when i meet the love of my life ...i will probably be hezitent as well to get married (for the above reasons)
yeah eventually ofcource i would ...but not till i was good and ready and really lived a little (so idealy maybe about 35)

..but thats just me. every guy is different so don't take what i say too literally as it might not even apply to your man

[noodles]

If you're not getting what you want what are you doing? Have you so little communication in your relatinships that you cant say 'look wtf is going here - why wont you marry me/or ask me/ or somethin?

Some people simply dont wanna do it. Some people dont want kids. they're as entitled as the next person to make decisions that are right for them. If they dont gel with yours however than maybe you should be moving on? Marrigae isnt the be-all and end-all for everyone.

[Rivka Shimshelewitz]

Something is not kosher about this story.

[Guest]

Something is not kosher about this story.

Totally agree - and if it is its a sad day.

[_citlali_]

He wants to get married, he just wont say when, he wont propose because he wants to surprise me, we'd talked about a promise ring but he 'forgot' about it (got busy with school). I'm 22 and he's 30, he's getting older, and I want to know that I can count on him. Any suggestions on how to approach the topic of marriage in a way that he'll be more receptive to at least discussing it?

[AskHim if]

Ask him if he wants
head to swallowed cumpletion
*Every Day for the rest of haelthy life?
Likely answer will be YES!
- Why do you ask? To which 'The Reply' is:
Ask me to marry you you silly fool,
- or else I'll likely find 1 who will *Easily.

[Because]

Ask him if he wants head to
*Swallowed CUMpletion *Every*Day* for ReMaindr Of (healthy) Life?
Likely reply:
"YES"! - Followed by:
- "Why asked"?
To which: 'The Reply' is:
"Marry me you silly fool, or else
I'll likely find 1 who will *Easily".

Yes, I understand the above.
Q:
Who'd marry a wench who:
Fails her *Obligation!
- to Swallow Loads EVERY DAY?
A.
Only a 'Loser' would.

[Guest]

http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/board/about29412-0-asc-0.html

Here's the possible reasons that might help you in getting him to marry you:

1.) Are you cooking for him?

2.) Are you cleaning the house and washing the clothes, like you should?

3.) Are you greeting him at the door in a sexy teddy, or better yet naked with his slipper in hand and dinner ready on the table for him?

4.) Are you sucking his dick often enough?

5.) Are you swallowing, or spitting? Nothing says "I love you" to a man like a woman that swallows. Really.

6.) Are you spicing it up int he bedroom and up on your readings of the Kama Sutra?

OK, sorry, I just couldn't resist an anit-feminists jab. Honestly, we men really don't think this way...

*smiles*

On a serious note, you really didn't give much details to know why he doesn't commit this way, but here is a suggestion: ASK HIM!

Tell him straight, "Yo guy, you and me ain't getting younger and like where the hell is this boat sailing to?" If he jumps out the window, then get angry but be happy that you know he wasn't the one and move one. If he raises his eyebrows, than maybe you got him to thinking a bit. And it might be that maybe, must maybe, he is on the same page as you and is thinking you don't want to commit. It sounds like you guys ain't the good communicating types. So go and communicate.

And while you're at it, go make some dinner and slip into a nice sexy teddy. It don't hurt, trust me.

[Did not know]

Here's the possible reasons that might help you in getting him to marry you:

1.) Are you cooking for him?

2.) Are you cleaning the house and washing the clothes, like you should?

3.) Are you greeting him at the door in a sexy teddy, or better yet naked with his slipper in hand and dinner ready on the table for him?

4.) * Are you sucking his dick often enough?

5.) Are you *swallowing, or spitting? Nothing says "I love you" to a man like a woman that swallows. Really.

6.) Are you spicing it up int he bedroom and up on your readings of the Kama Sutra?

OK, sorry, I just couldn't resist an anit-feminists jab. Honestly, we men really don't think this way...

*smiles*

On a serious note, you really didn't give much details to know why he doesn't commit this way, but here is a suggestion: ASK HIM!

Tell him straight, "Yo guy, you and me ain't getting younger and like where the hell is this boat sailing to?" If he jumps out the window, then get angry but be happy that you know he wasn't the one and move one. If he raises his eyebrows, than maybe you got him to thinking a bit. And it might be that maybe, must maybe, he is on the same page as you and is thinking you don't want to commit. It sounds like you guys ain't the good communicating types. So go and communicate.

And while you're at it, go make some dinner and slip into a nice sexy teddy. It don't hurt, trust me.

Cant find the addy anymore, but the Swallowing Often is 'statittically PROVEN' a Key Factor in rellationships that last through any challenges and stand a test of time.

[Scoop]

I am in a similar situation right now. I have been living with my boyfriend for over 2 years now. Well, when we met I was just getting out of a previous relationship. During our first few months he was so earger to marry me. He even asked my mom already! I then wasnt sure if I was ready for all that then. Time has passed and now I am wanting to know where this is going. We went out to eat with my mother on Mother's Day and she asked him after dinner. So what's going on with you two? I thought you guys were going to get married? All he could say is I DONT KNOW! He doesnt want to right now...okay so I am happy where we stand in our relationship. I have a 7 year old from a previous relationship that lives with me as well and treats him like a dad. Basically we have the family but just without the ring. I know we dont have to rush it but I am afraid to waist my life on something that may not even happen! I dont want to be pushy about it but I have recently brought it up and I just get brushed off. I guess I am making myself miserable by trying to get an answer only I want to here. Why is he not pushing the M word right now? If not then when? What is considered to long to wait for that other person? I am just tired of being just a girlfriend...I get the oh wheres your husband...well I dont have one.

[pasha]

the woman who said girls need to stop "playing house" is 100% correct! Most of the time if a man is getting all of the husband-like treatment w/o the ring, then he has reason to marry you. point blank period. These ladies need to wake up and understand how men think. they dont think like us women. if a man doesnt want you, he doesnt care how many babies you pop out, how many dishes you do or how much laundry you have done. he will take it for what it is and still wont marry you. men like and appreciate women who set standards. those are the women they marry! NOT WIFEY! WIFEY( a wanna be wife who he will not marry) and WIFE(the head cheif) are two different things. which one do you wanna be?