my kidz dont want me too have it??????????

mommy havin a baby · Guest

hi im 44 and im havin a new baby my kids dont want me too have it and they r real angry at me wat do i do?

st_ignatius110 · Posted: Wed Aug 10, 2005 2:31 pm Post subject:

First of all, how old are your kids?

Second, don't listen to your kids for advice on having babies. My thoughts would be you are a more experienced parent then they are.

Why would they be angry? Is it with a man they don't like? Are they embarassed? Just find out why and then address those issues.

mommy havin a baby · Guest

no but they r 14 and 12 and they think that cause there might be a new baby i will luv them less

Guest · Posted: Wed Aug 10, 2005 2:43 pm Post subject:

If they are worried about not having your lone anymore. You need to reassure them that no matter what happens or if there is an addition to your family they will still be loved, they just will not have as much time with you, just let them know that you want it. and nothing will change your mind. If they are still mad about it trya nd tell them how it will benifit your family. Make them focus on the pros instead of the cons.

st_ignatius110 · Posted: Wed Aug 10, 2005 2:54 pm Post subject:

Ah, I see. That makes perfect sense. Reassure them that you love them...and that the love you have is big enough to encompass all of your children. Also let them know that they will play a vital role in this babies life...and that his baby will really look up to them and really care about them as his older siblings.

mommy havin a baby · Guest

thanxz but i have to go im goin to through up im goin to the hospital to have my babay soon and want to go see my room and stuff bye

Guest · Posted: Mon Aug 15, 2005 11:21 am Post subject:

Just give the little bastards a slap.

DirectRabbit · FemaleFirst Guru Joined: 19 Jul 2005 Posts: 6386

I would say, reassure them but also be firm with them... kids that age can run rings round you if you let them!

joanna3535 · FemaleFirst Guru Joined: 15 Apr 2005 Posts: 7178

it isnt up to your children and i think even at 12 and 14 they are being very selfish, not thinking about how you feel.
I think you need to explain to them that you will always love them and you will love the baby too.
Having this baby wont change anything, but make life more exciting for you all.
Good Luck

Guest · Posted: Wed Aug 31, 2005 7:04 am Post subject:

My mum had a second child when I was 10 - I was jealous at first but as I progressed into my teens, I was glad the baby was there to distract her from harping on at me all the time.

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