by Polgara69 on Fri Oct 10, 2008 9:13 am
sonal things
ckwan wrote:My late husband and I adopted a boy from South Africa 17 years ago. 4 days ago he broke both collar bones in a quading accident with friends and has full shoulder to palm casts on both arms for the next 8 to 10 weeks!
I am going to have to do everything for him as he is coming home in 2 days. My medical coverage does not have home care although I can take long term coverage to care for him myself. The doctor has provided me instructions on some some really pethat I will have to do for him and I am really nervous and embarassed.
Can anyone who has had to provide detailed care to a fully grown child please give me advice?
ckwan wrote:The Colonel"]What "care"?
I need to figure out how to go about getting over my embarrassment as well as dealing with his embarrassment as far as me having to "care" for all his needs while he can't use his arms:
Bathing (this is big concern for me)
Toilet calls (this will be embarrassing for him I am sure)
Honestly I am really nervous about both of those especially the bathing part and he is coming home tomorrow morning.
[quote="ckwan wrote:
The Colonel"][quote="ckwan wrote:The Colonel"]What "care"?
I need to figure out how to go about getting over my embarrassment as well as dealing with his embarrassment as far as me having to "care" for all his needs while he can't use his arms:
Bathing (this is big concern for me)
Toilet calls (this will be embarrassing for him I am sure)
Honestly I am really nervous about both of those especially the bathing part and he is coming home tomorrow morning.
I fail to see what is embarassing about washing and toileting one's son.
I fail to see how you fail to see how that can not be embarrassing for both of us. Ivan is right, he is not a pre-pubecant boy, but fully grown boy. He is very athletic, well over 6 feet tall and thus very, very heavy. I am small pushing 40 asian woman who wouldn't be able to help him in and out of the tub. His legs are fine but I won't take the chance and have decided to do his bathing in the walk-in shower stall rather than risk getting in and out of the tub with him having no arms to balance.
I am worried about my ability to clean him properly. I haven't even seen a penis in 10 years let alone cleaned one and I have absolutely no idea how to even clean a foreskin and have actually never in seen one.
And what do I do if, god forbid he gets an erection? Do I get mad? I hardly see how that is appropriate, or can I even blame him if he does?
Believe me Colonel, the way I see it embarrassing could be the best case scenario!
[quote="ckwan wrote:I have no idea what you are talking about only that you are extremely rude. Your posts are largely cryptic, however what I do understand from them is very strange. My late husband normally bathed our boy when he was young not me, and although I may have bathed him occassionally it was years ago long before his foreskin had detached.
