I can't get over my ex-girlfriend

[dollaman]

hey im still i love with one of my ex girlfriends and we have been out 5 times and its been a year since we goon out we gt in txt arguments now and then and just now i txtd her for the first time for 2 months and she dont really say much i love her still nd she just broke up wd her bf this weekend can any one give me advice please i wanna get back with her do u think i can get back with her :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :? :?

[Harsh]

Its all becoz of her we broke off and the sitation went very bad in went to her place and abusd her caught her with this new guy in his car ..howver
i know it will be impossible for her to forget me ,,and its been so very impossible fr me to hate her ...I try everyday to forget her and get her out of my mind but i dont know y ..i feel i love being in her toughts ... i know its all waste now bcoz i have made things worst ..and bad ...but its all fr her i pleaded her before we broke off tht ..to rethink about this .. i dont know y she did this ..she still has my heart following her ... everday in the morning i think wether she has had her breakfast o no..wat she must be doinIts all becoz of her we broke off and the sitation went very bad in went to her place and abusd her caught her with this new guy in his car ..howver
i know it will be impossible for her to forget me ,,and its been so very impossible fr me to hate her ...I try everyday to forget her and get her out of my mind but i dont know y ..i feel i love being in her toughts ... i know its all waste now bcoz i have made things worst ..and bad ...but its all fr her i pleaded her before we broke off tht ..to rethink about this .. i dont know y she did this ..she still has my heart following her ... everday in the morning i think wether she has had her breakfast o no..wat she must be doing ..and if she is with tht other guy ..if she remebers me the times tht we v spent together and the time ...make me cry ..evereythinbg in this world reminds me of her th shirts which i wear to office and wen she usde to tell me tht im looking good ..in th pink shrt and the blue goes good on me and wen she usde to hug me and ..then ...wen she usdto say tht im growing fat ..but she will still love me even if i grow more fat ...and love me forever ..she told me tht i m the best thing tht had hppnd to her life ..Love u jaan alot ..i will never be ablet to forget u ..not bcoz u loved me ..bcoz u made me understand wat lov is and how does it feel missing somebody ..u know ..tht i love ..thinking about u looking at ur snaps and playinga nice romantic song ..and closing my eyes feeling tht we are together and loving each other ...Jaan ..u have given me the best of times ...thx jaan lov u alot ....ur eyes ...i wanted toispend my life resting in it ..but i know its my fault as well i did not tell u all this wen u wre around ...to lov u is wat my lov is ...to think about u which makes me sad and then i feel good tht how coame i was so lucky tht someone could love me so much ..thx jaan ..I lov u I love u i love u ...U made me CRAZY ...Crazy ..thinking about ur lov..thx fr maing me feel tht living is so imp and now more imp fr me to have tht mazing feeling of lov tht u gave me and tht sorrows tht u have left me with ,,i dont cry bcoz i promissed u i will not and bcoz ..I consider my self lucky tht u wre in my life ..I m sure tht if not inthis life jaan well be together next Life ..god cannot deny this from me tht will be the only reason fr my rebirth jaan to love u and to lov u..and not give u tears at all................Lovs only fr u Jaanu !!!!!!!!!g ..and if she is with tht other guy ..if she remebers me the times tht we v spent together and the time ...make me cry ..evereythinbg in this world reminds me of her th shirts which i wear to office and wen she usde to tell me tht im looking good ..in th pink shrt and the blue goes good on me and wen she usde to hug me and ..then ...wen she usdto say tht im growing fat ..but she will still love me even if i grow more fat ...and love me forever ..she told me tht i m the best thing tht had hppnd to her life ..Love u jaan alot ..i will never be ablet to forget u ..not bcoz u loved me ..bcoz u made me understand wat lov is and how does it feel missing somebody ..u know ..tht i love ..thinking about u looking at ur snaps and playinga nice romantic song ..and closing my eyes feeling tht we are together and loving each other ...Jaan ..u have given me the best of times ...thx jaan lov u alot ....ur eyes ...i wanted toispend my life resting in it ..but i know its my fault as well i did not tell u all this wen u wre around ...to lov u is wat my lov is ...to think about u which makes me sad and then i feel good tht how coame i was so lucky tht someone could love me so much ..thx jaan ..I lov u I love u i love u ...U made me CRAZY ...Crazy ..thinking about ur lov..thx fr maing me feel tht living is so imp and now more imp fr me to have tht mazing feeling of lov tht u gave me and tht sorrows tht u have left me with ,,i dont cry bcoz i promissed u i will not and bcoz ..I consider my self lucky tht u wre in my life ..I m sure tht if not inthis life jaan well be together next Life ..god cannot deny this from me tht will be the only reason fr my rebirth jaan to love u and to lov u..and not give u tears at all................Lovs only fr u Jaanu !!!!!!!!!

[helensmith5200]

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[Guest]

Im sorry you all have to go through this. Somtimes you just wish you could find your soulmate now, cut the crap with all thses wannabes.

I began as friends with my girlfriend. But the whole time we liked each other. Just niether one of us wanted to make a move. 5 months later I finally asked her out, and we were a couple.

It began smooth, but she went into a deep depression for a couple months, we barley saw each other outside school. It wore on me, the fact that she wasnt happy or we were getting anywhere. But I hung in there and did everything I could and slowly she got better, by April we were real close she talk about places we could go, and even said she loved me.

She loved flirting, talking about sex to guys, sending pictures of herslef in bras. But I ingored it, I hurt me and made me very jealous but I kept it to myslef.

But it slowly went down, She cheated on me. Went all the way on a guy she barley knew. While she told me what happened, she lied about how far they went. She cried and wanted me to forgive her, promising it will never happen agian. So I stayed, not even bringin it up. And it appeared we gotten over it

But then two weeks later she did it agian with a ex. She agian went all the way. She wanted to talk and said she was a horrible person and please forgive me . In the back of my head I knew it wasnt goin to happen. But I wanted her, so I forced myself to belive him. I was blind. So I yet agian forgived her.

It slowly started going down, I didnt trust her, and she got mad calling me ridicoulus. But how could I? She betrayed me twice. We grew apart but still liked each other and wanted it to work.

Then she did it agian, for a third time all the way. I yelled at her and eneded it. She kept calling leaving sorry so much, and sending me messages. She had a great abillity to say exactly the right things out the right times I ignored it for two days. Then got back together.

She worked alot, and broke up with me just a few weeks after. Telling me it was to much work and we were going to different colleges. I was furious! how could someone put somebody threw all the S*** every pain and then just end it. She didnt desreve to end it I did.

I gnored her for two weeks, then talked to her. She called me alot to talk. But I heard she did another guy at camp. Somthing she promised she wasnt going to do. That she changed. But she didnt. I was angry all over agian.

I treated her like a princess, did everything, allways sacrfiseing myself for her.I didn deserve anything she did to me.

I was tired of all the pain. So Im ingoring her idefintly till I dont care. Im ignoring her calls, blocked her on facebook, and aim. I dont want to here about her at all. I was hard, but Im quicly getting over here.

Theres still some jealousy, when I think of her doing a guy, and missing the good times. But taking out all contact does really help. Give it a couple weeks and Ill proably be completly over her.

As much as it hurt. I learned alot on this relaintship. And looking back Im proud I forgave her all those times. It showed how good of a person I was. My only regret was being so blind

[Goliath]

listen dude
I understand ur feelings
although I still have not bin through the break up part
I've had times where I thought she's drifted away from me
I love her with all my heart
and being in love with her, I just want to see that cute smile on her face
I wana see her happy
and if worst comes to worst one day if I end up in your position
(listen to this Ive thought about I a lot)
I'd ask her if she's happy
if you really love her, and shes happy in her life, let her go.
sulk over her, cry till u start shedding tears of blood
I'm sure I'd do the same
but let her go if she's happy
just ask her that, and see what she says
and if u do love her
be with her every step of the way
just not as a boyfriend but someone she can count on and recieve comfort from
Who knows, maybe you'll get back together.
what I wrote is from the heart bro
hope you find it helpfull

[Scotty2Hotty]

Hi, I know most people are gonna think, u've got to move on, but i just want to ask peoples opinions.

Me n my girlfriend (ex) hav been together almost 2 years, we met about 3 months before that. we hit it off so much n we spoke on the phone practically every night during most of that 3 months. then we got together. things went steady with us, we had quite alot of fights n broke up alot but we got back together straight away each time. soon we moved in together and it was great. we were boyfriend and girlfriend and luvved it. She said she loved me and i believed her.
but now we've had a massive argument. well i can't even call it that, one day she got upset about a tiny thing n she just left. i kno she worries alot that i was cheating on her, which i wasn't but every single guy she's bin wiv has done it to her so she thinks im just like them.
she's got no mobile and she hasn't been on the internet for days. she's totally ignoring me and it hurts so bad. sometimes i feel like dying it's so horrible! What can i do? How can i forget about this or get in touch with her or something?

[Goliath]

find her and tell her how much u love her
tell her that what she's thinking is wrong n ur not like the other guys
reallly convince her

[Kendrith]

lright, me and my girlfriend had been dating for about a year and a half. We were each other's firsts for everything past making out. I had never felt so good being with some one and we had an amazing bond and connection. I had dated other girls before her but never felt anything remotely close to this. She would talk to her friends about how she would marry me right out of high school and how she knew i was the one. (Obviously i wasn't going to get married right out of high school but knowing she loved me that much was great.) Any way, We used to have sex 2 or 3 times a week. Then just sort of ran out of chances, being 17 and having a truck with a cover, the only real opportunity was when no one was home at one of our houses. She eventually said i don't want to have sex anymore because my period was a week late last time and i was too scared. I was going to try and reassure her that as long as i pulled out and wore a condom those chances were ridiculously small. I didn't want to push anything because i loved being with her and was fine with oral sex and such. How ever, the day before i left for 10 days she said " I think we should break up, because if we're meant to be together we will, just later in life." I told her that if we were meant to be together why wouldn't we be together all the time. Well obviously i was completely confused but we were so in love i knew she would just beg for me to take her back the next day, she did and i took her back after she explained that she just wacked out for a minute. So i left for 10 days and said i think we should avoid talking so that you can really see what it would be like to not be with me. So i come home from my trip and call her up, excited to talk to her and she is excited to hear from me. I say i'm sure you've done a lot of thinking, she says yeah, so i say well what conclusion have you come to. I'm just sitting there waiting for "Oh im so sorry i don't know what i was thinking you're the love of my life and i never want to loose you." But instead I got a long pause and my heart just sank and i knew she was going to say no. So she wove a story with many conflicting ideas to explain why she was doing this. The 1st time it was the " If we're meant to be together etc." like i already said. 2nd time it was i won't have time it's my senior year in high school even though she will be less busy than she was last year when we fell in love. And then we talked the night after the second break up and the reason was i don't have feelings for you anymore. So she broke my heart again after i forgave her for doing it once. I haven't talked to her since then (7 days ago) and will wait until she calls me.

Anyway now that you know the story, my question is do I try and get her back since I can't even imagine life without out her. Or sit here miserable for the rest of summer. I know i'm supposed to just let it go but i'm pretty sure thats only if she's made it clear that there is no chance and she hasn't. just 1 month ago she just looked me in the eyes and poured her heart out about how she would die if we weren't together and how amazing it was to be in love. She just sat there and hugged me for a good hour explaining how great we were together and i could tell it was truly heartfelt because she almost cried she was so happy. So i guess what i don't understand is how you can go from loving some one so much that you would marry them and not be able to function without them to no longer having feelings for them. And i've tried everything, staying busy, working out, meeting other girls. But that special connection i had with her before we even officially started going out is not there with any of the girls if met (around 12). And i'm not conceited or anything but I wouldn't have a hard time finding some one to go out with me it's just that i want her back and if you heard and were there when she poured her heart out you would see why. So i know she still has feelings for me because it has to be impossible to loose such strong feelings in only 10 days, right? So basically i have to get her back because i'm utterly lost and can't even imagine being with any one else. Especially after reading the posts that say "yeah i'm married and have kids but i still wish i could be with my true love from High school" I don't want to be like that i want to have her. Could use some advice on how to get her back, rather than how to get over her because I am 100% positive she still has those strong feelings and just wants to... i don't even know, help.

[scotty2hotty]

find her and tell her how much u love her
tell her that what she's thinking is wrong n ur not like the other guys
reallly convince her

that's the thing i've tried to find her but i don't drive so it's difficult to get to her. If i go to her work i know she's just gonna storm off off without even listening to me

[Goliath]

find her and tell her how much u love her
tell her that what she's thinking is wrong n ur not like the other guys
reallly convince her

that's the thing i've tried to find her but i don't drive so it's difficult to get to her. If i go to her work i know she's just gonna storm off off without even listening to me

Well try emailing her, asking her if you could meet her one last time, and id doubt shes going to storm off like that, why would she? does she have any reason? you only love her...not like you did something wrong to her. And once you get a hold of her make your point crystal clear...
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ummm i have a question...how do i make the text so that what you said before shows up in a different font? like you did to mine... (Goliath wrote...)

[Goliath]

Listen, Kendrith,
like i said before, just make sure shes happy man. If you love her you want to see her happy right? Then if her being happy doesnt involve you being in her life then let her go. Meet up with her, tell her you love her, and still care for her, but if this is what she wants then youll let her go. Tell her that you only want her to be happy in life. I know this wasnt the answer you were looking for, and in your position this wouldnt be the answer id be looking for either, but the real truth is, that if you love someone youd sacrifice all of your happiness to bring a little bit of it into theirs. If she wants to be friends, remain friends and make sure shes happy. Be there for her when no one else is, who knows, she might come back. Listen, you've got a really big heart for letting her do that to you and yet you still willing to take her back, I think she needs to appreciate that.

[Scotty2Hotty]

I've emailed her alot, n txted but her fones cut off now. She's not been on the internet since she left. I think she'll storm off because she's scared she's hurt me and is scared to face up to things. I just went onto ur post and clicked quote

[Goliath]

I've emailed her alot, n txted but her fones cut off now. She's not been on the internet since she left. I think she'll storm off because she's scared she's hurt me and is scared to face up to things. I just went onto ur post and clicked quote

well...if shes avoiding you, your best bet is to meet her in person, grab a hold of her, run after her, and settle it once and for all. Think about it, she'll just keep avoiding you...is that what you want? If not, be firm, and go up to her, if she tries to back off grab her slightly and make her listen

[snappy120_2]

I've emailed her alot, n txted but her fones cut off now. She's not been on the internet since she left. I think she'll storm off because she's scared she's hurt me and is scared to face up to things. I just went onto ur post and clicked quote

well...if shes avoiding you, your best bet is to meet her in person, grab a hold of her, run after her, and settle it once and for all. Think about it, she'll just keep avoiding you...is that what you want? If not, be firm, and go up to her, if she tries to back off grab her slightly and make her listen

Advice from a kid...
Do you really think grabbing the girl is going to make her want to stick arouond. Prepare for a swift blow to the b0llocks
Either she'll come back or she won't.
You have to decide whether you hang around and possibly waste you time. Or pick your arse up and move on.
x x x

[Goliath]

I've emailed her alot, n txted but her fones cut off now. She's not been on the internet since she left. I think she'll storm off because she's scared she's hurt me and is scared to face up to things. I just went onto ur post and clicked quote

well...if shes avoiding you, your best bet is to meet her in person, grab a hold of her, run after her, and settle it once and for all. Think about it, she'll just keep avoiding you...is that what you want? If not, be firm, and go up to her, if she tries to back off grab her slightly and make her listen

Advice from a kid...
Do you really think grabbing the girl is going to make her want to stick arouond. Prepare for a swift blow to the b0llocks
Either she'll come back or she won't.
You have to decide whether you hang around and possibly waste you time. Or pick your arse up and move on.
x x x

But shes staying away for the wrong reasons which need to be discussed
if someone really loves someone and they want the relationship to work
the last thing they want to hear is to "move on"
okay grabbing her may not be the best idea but there has to be some way to get a hold of her?
although if it were me I'd make sure she listens to what I have to say at any cost
moving on for me would not be an option nor would it be easy
I'd have to live the rest of my life knowing that we could have been but I was too sissy to confront the woman I love