Please help.... harrasment?

[Under pressure]

Hey everyone! I am looking for advise on the following, I know it is going to be a long message and I hope that everyone has the time to read it, as I thought it best to get everything down on paper and ask advise. What would you do in this situation?? Any advice would be great!

It started last year when I went to stay with him for roughly 2 weeks, this is because I had just split up from my boyf and the house held too many memories for me and I had to have a break. He offered for me to stay at his, and it was also closer to work for me so it seemed easier instead of getting up at 5am every day and making my way into London. (this happened last Sept/Oct) (He is / was my best mates boyfriend)

Anyway whilst I was staying there, he tried to come onto me and kept on plying me with wine every night. I was depressed as I missed my ex and my head was all over the place. We ended up going out most nights with other friends, but on one night he ended up kissing me, and this tore me up inside as his girlfriend was my mate.

I went home the following weekend and I tried to loose contact with him, as my head was a mess. I wanted to tell her but was scared that she wouldn't believe me, and I started suffering from stress ended up having a very bad rash. The Dr said it was a consequence of what had happened and I couldn't live with what happened so it was my bodies way of trying to cleanse itself due to what he had put me through. The Dr had to put me on cream steroids, and special medication as my skin was red raw, flaking, itchy and looked like sunburn (- but wasn't) as it was over my entire body. It was so dry and lacking of moisture. I have never experienced anything like this in my entire life.

Throughout all of this he kept texting me things like 'hey beautiful,.. my day feels odd without you. Hey princess, how am I - I am really missing you etc.. I sent these messages onto my friends and another person that knew her. She told me not to tell her as it would destroy her and it was too late. So I did nothing.

Later on in the same year he kept on trying to get back in contact with me, and I kept on avoiding his calls. I did not want to talk to him, as what had happened before. I did not want to get myself into the same situation and this was about the same time that I met a new boyf. I told my boyf about it and in Jan we decided to meet up with them in Kingston. We did that and straight away my boyf took a dislike to him, and later on that day I found out why - he thought that guy was obsessed in me.

I told him that things had changed since last year and that he was being silly. Anyway later on that month my mate and him spilt up, and he started coming to me for advise etc... I didn't tell her as she was also texting me saying how do I get him back? She also asked me not to tell him that I was talking to her and vice versa. I kept things quiet and because of the stress etc my boyf and I parted in Feb. Throughout my mate and him have been in contact with me, with him telling me that he is so over heis over her, and that he wants to move on in his life. Her texting me that she misses him and how does she get him back? I told her to not have any contact and sooner or later he would realise what he had been missing. There has never been anything going on between me and him - I am not attracted to him at all and I think it would make me physically sick if I tried too.

I did not tell him this, as there was never a need too and have been in tears on the phone to my friends about this, as I feel under pressure and my friends about this, as I feel under pressure and I felt that I should say something to her about it as 3 months later she is still phoning me up in tears about it. But felt it was too late. Plus I kept on having emails from her saying that James had phoned her and told her that he missed her and loved her. I decided to ignore it.

That is until last Friday, I get an email from her saying that he rang her the night before saying that he wants marriage and kids with her, and she said that is what she wanted the whole time she was with him. So she was happy.
However the next day, I got an email from him saying hey what am I doing that weekend? I told him I am not interested anymore and sorry but I can’t see you etc. Then he lost it. He went mental and this was the start of the abuse.

He rang her later that night, told her that I was the cause of the break-up, and that I told him never to contact her etc.. so much so that she now doesn't want to talk to me and has blocked my details, she wont even give me the time to show her any evidence (as in emails from him etc… or listen to what actually happened). He also phoned me on Fri night, spoke to one of my friends that I was with gave them lots of abuse on the phone till I grabbed the phone and hung up and he rang back and it went through to answer phone. The message was that I deserve everything I get, when am I going to get it into my head that they are not getting back together and how glad he is that he is talking to my answerphone as he gets more sense out of that. This has really upset me, as I have lost a mate due to all his lies. He is now threatening to phone everyone as he is very angry (I don't know why) and ruin my life.

He couldn't handle the word no and now he is trying to ruin everything around me I think it is because he was obsessed in me and I said no to him. So he is getting payback.

Please help!!

[noodles]