Hello there
It's been a while since anyone left a post here but I can came across this thread during a search to let mothers living apart from their children know about my new self-help book, "A Mother Apart", published by Crown House - and thought I'd write a few lines.
The number of mothers living apart from their children around the world is on the rise. As you'll know from the posts above, women live apart from their children for a whole range of reasons; they lose custody or they choose to be part-time mothers, and sometimes there are more tragic circumstances involved such as a serious illness or losing touch with their children altogether - suffering Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS).
Whatever the reason, being separated from a child can be devastatingly painful and difficult to manage. Grief, guilt, regret and the stress of battling with an ex-partner are just a few emotions that women living apart from their children must come to terms with. And many are left alone to deal with their own pain and emotional journey as the subject is still surrounded by taboo and stigma. As a counsellor, I have worked with women who keep their status of being a mother a secret.
That's why I was inspired to write "A Mother Apart". I have written the book as a mother apart of twenty years (I now have a good relationship with my daughter who grew up with her father in South Africa) and as a counsellor who specialises in supporting women who live apart from their children.
Here is a brief synopsis:
Moving beyond the stigmatised phenomenon of mothers who leave, ‘A Mother Apart’ provides empathic, practical support to readers battling with their emotions as they adjust and come to terms with life apart from their child. It’s written to relieve the isolation of the many mothers apart who say ‘I thought I was the only one’. It provides understanding approaches to tackle difficult emotions, helping women to:
•understand and find release from feelings of excessive guilt and shame
•grieve your loss and live with dignity
•learn the art of big hearted mothering: deep love from afar, over time
•find positive ways to integrate their lives as a mother apart and independent women
•review and develop their relationship with their child
•develop amicable relationships with their children’s father, father’s new partner and other family members
•make decisions about their future, including having new relationships and other children, with confidence
•and fully appreciate how the capacity to love deeply from afar makes them some of the most extraordinary mothers in the world
Knowing only too well from personal experience and the experiences of the women I work with, finding understanding, non-judgemental support as mothers apart from our children isn’t easy. It's my dearest wish to be able to reach out and help mothers who need help.
More information can be found on my website www.amotherapart.com, from which you can access my blog.
Many thanks for reading this. Take good care of yourself.
Sarah Hart
oooh how far along is your Wife? do you guys know if its a boy or girl yet? your other 4 are boys right?
,ill never giv my children to him for he is an addict to alsorts ,he also has four other children to two other women that he didnt care for he use to pick them up and leve for me to care for when he had access 