Potty Training for Confindent Daughters

[Geest]

Urinary tract infections affect women much more than men. It’s easy to chalk this down to simple biology, but much of it may be due to the fact that women’s urination is taboo. A lack of opportunity for females to urinate in private and the fact that women urinating in public is not accepted may lead to females holding back to unreasonable limits and even wetting themselves.

All this starts at childhood. It’s vitally important that just as a young girl should be able to express her self in other ways, the female child is allowed the freedom to urinate immediately whenever she needs to. This means that she must be able to relieve herself without shame in front of others, if need be. Female genitals are nothing to be ashamed of and she must be taught that they are equal to her brothers’ penises.

So, how to I give my daughter enlightened potty training?
• Do not discourage genital exploration- by doing this she will not feel shame in her body.
• When she shows awareness of her urination, before the event occurs, take her on your lap. Remove all bottom clothing and swaddle with towels. You might also warm your hands and massage her stomach and thighs. This will help her to feel at ease (relaxing her pelvic muscles), enabling her to go at will.
• Repeat until she is comfortable with no towel- sit on the toilet seat, spread your legs and place her in between them. She should progress to being held or aimed over the bowl and peeing independently.
• Allow her to roam around clotheless, giving her a comfort with her body. I would allow her to urinate at will however she pleases (after all it can be cleaned up) especially in the yard.
• Following on from the previous point, teach her to urinate standing. Believe it or not, girls can accomplish this, often with relative ease. She should stand with her legs well apart and slightly bent, leaning back. Find her urethra. Using it as a guide, grasp her labia and pull apart and upwards. Instruct her to push. This takes practice but eventually she will be able to manage on her own. This huge benefit of this is that when running around as she grows, your daughter will simply have to inch her panties down slightly (little of her precious time is wasted!).

When away from toilet facilities:
This situation comes up time and time again. A little girl desperately needs to relieve herself on a car journey but is told to wait until a restroom is reached. Here are some tips for dealing with emergencies.
• Pull over, let her hop out and squat beside the car. Trust me, this is far easier than having to deal with complaints and accidents.
• Again, if she wants to stand, let her get out and do her business.
• If there is no way you can pull over, hold and aim her out of the window.

Never let your daughter wet herself- there is nothing more demeaning. Remember that a child is not instinctively ashamed of bodily functions. Think of the message you send by making her urinate on herself.

But what if you’re on public transport?
Now this can be embarrassing for parents, I’ll admit.
However, you really should explain to bus drivers that your daughter wants to urinate and ask him/her to stop. If s/he will not, try to convey the urgency of the situation and warn that you may have to take drastic measures. If worst comes to worst, avail of any plastic bags etc. available or even resort to taking her to the back corner of the bus. Trains and airplanes almost always have toilets.

What about privacy?
Parents always seem more concerned about strangers seeing their daughter’s genitalia than their sons. There’s no reason for this, as sexual abuse affects both sexes equally. If you get, comments, ignore them and content yourself that you are raising your daughter

[Polgara69]