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| Does a potential husband have a right to know if you have had an abortion? |
| Yes, he has the right to know. |
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Fred75
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 Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 7:21 pm Post subject: Does a potential husband have a right to know? |
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| Should he be told when you start discussing life and marriage. |
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ZiaAries
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| Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 7:45 pm Post subject: |
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| I would come clean about anything he wanted to know about me. Lying and secrets is not the kind of relationship I want. |
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Fred75
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| ZiaAries wrote: |
| I would come clean about anything he wanted to know about me. Lying and secrets is not the kind of relationship I want. |
Nice.
Thank you. |
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ZiaAries
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| Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 7:52 pm Post subject: |
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| Fred75 wrote: |
| ZiaAries wrote: |
| I would come clean about anything he wanted to know about me. Lying and secrets is not the kind of relationship I want. |
Nice.
Thank you. |
You are very welcomed Fred.  |
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Naturegurl
FemaleFirst Newbie (20+ posts)
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| Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 9:00 pm Post subject: |
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| Yes, I agree with the others. Lying is not a part of a healthy relationship. |
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lovealot
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| If he asked directly I would tell, but, I think depending on the circumstances surrounding an abortion it may not be nessesary for them to know. If it was thought to affect fertility it would constitute a need to tell them too, it would only be fair especially if they really wanted a family. |
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Verve
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| Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2008 11:00 pm Post subject: |
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A potential husband...... No.
( I agree with lovealot on some issues of him knowing)
A husband ....... Yes. |
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Cambridge
FemaleFirst Grand Master (1000+ Posts)
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| Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 12:34 am Post subject: |
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| But this begs the question: does a man, who got a woman pregnant, who then had an abortion, have an obligation to tell a potential wife? |
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Jaca
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| Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 1:05 am Post subject: |
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| An abortion is a major life decision. If it continues to affect you then it will eventually affect a partner too. It will come to their attention eventually and there will be less hurt if that happens sooner rather than later. |
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Fred75
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| Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 12:08 pm Post subject: |
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| Cambridge wrote: |
| But this begs the question: does a man, who got a woman pregnant, who then had an abortion, have an obligation to tell a potential wife? |
If he were upset at the other woman for killing his child... sure.
It tells a lot to the new one. |
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Verve
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| Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 2:27 pm Post subject: |
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| Cambridge wrote: |
| But this begs the question: does a man, who got a woman pregnant, who then had an abortion, have an obligation to tell a potential wife? |
Excellent question! |
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ZiaAries
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| Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 7:16 pm Post subject: |
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| Fred75 wrote: |
| Cambridge wrote: |
| But this begs the question: does a man, who got a woman pregnant, who then had an abortion, have an obligation to tell a potential wife? |
If he were upset at the other woman for killing his child... sure.
It tells a lot to the new one. |
IF? What about him supporting the other woman's decision for abortion? I think the potential wife has the right to know that as well just as you agreed that the potential husband had a right to know. Honesty goes both ways or is this one-side? |
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Fred75
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| Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 7:22 pm Post subject: |
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| ZiaAries wrote: |
| Fred75 wrote: |
| Cambridge wrote: |
| But this begs the question: does a man, who got a woman pregnant, who then had an abortion, have an obligation to tell a potential wife? |
If he were upset at the other woman for killing his child... sure.
It tells a lot to the new one. |
IF? What about him supporting the other woman's decision for abortion? I think the potential wife has the right to know that as well just as you agreed that the potential husband had a right to know. Honesty goes both ways or is this one-side? |
The reason I said IF was to convey the fact the man felt a loss and is mentioning it so he may have a say.
But since a man ULTIMATELY has no say in regards to abortion... it does not go both ways. |
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ZiaAries
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| Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 8:24 pm Post subject: |
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| Fred, I said if he supported the abortion. There are men that don't want to be fathers and they ask and want the woman to get a abortion or they say they will not be forced to be a father. Now Fred, answer my question about 2-way honesty and revealing past decisions like abortion. Does he not owe her the same disclosure that she owes him????? |
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Fred75
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| Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 8:41 pm Post subject: |
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| ZiaAries wrote: |
| Fred, I said if he supported the abortion. There are men that don't want to be fathers and they ask and want the woman to get a abortion or they say they will not be forced to be a father. Now Fred, answer my question about 2-way honesty and revealing past decisions like abortion. Does he not owe her the same disclosure that she owes him????? |
Yes and no.
Yes if he feels he needs to be honest. I can see your position.
No, because he is not the one that actually committed the act. |
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