Who pays?

Sol · Guest

I am going to be one of the groomsmen for my friend's wedding in July. I went to get fitted for my suit and the rental store asked for a deposit and gave me a ticket to pay the additional cost of the rental when I pick up the tuxedo during the first week of June.

My girlfriend who went with me went ballistic and said that the groom should be picking up the cost. She then said that I should give less money as a gift to cover what the tuxedo rental is costing me.

I told her that I thought we should just suck it up.

Any opinions on how I should handle this?

Julie · Guest

Oooops a bit of a tricky one, I would say that the groom should pay for your outfit but on the other hand would you have been buying something new for the day anyway if you weren't one of the grooms men Question

So sorry dont know the answer to that I just thought i would give you another little problem to have thought about, and is your girlfriend buying herself anythink new Question

see what I mean. On top of all this a wedding is a big expense and any help is usually appreciated, and you can give him the same dilema whey you get married and he has to fork out for something to wear

Sol · Guest

Fair enough, that was what I was thinking

geust · Guest

well with brides maids they pay for their own dress so it should in my opinion be the same on the other end even if he isnt paying for the wedding he has a honey moon and a new bride to be paying for every dollar helps jipping on the gift is a low jesture. put the shoes on the other foot iis how i always look at it . DO unto others as yoyu wold have done to you

Smiler;) · Posted: Tue May 31, 2005 3:32 pm Post subject:

it not normal for a bridesmaid to pay for her dress (unless she offers to), its not normal to pay for anything unless the bride and groom have asked you before hand......they are asking you to be part of there day then expect you to pick up the bill Confused

bit of a cheek if you ask me Rolling Eyes

im getting married next year and i wouldnt expect anyone to pay for there own outfit.

Guest · Posted: Wed Jun 15, 2005 12:59 am Post subject:

Bridesmaids do pay for their own dress at least in the US they typically do, so I'm assuming the same goes for groomsman. Is the tux or suit rental that expensive to make a fuss about? Can you shop around at different suit rental places? Try googling "wedding etiquite groomsman" and see what you find.

Guest · Posted: Wed Jun 15, 2005 1:05 am Post subject:

Bridesmaids do pay for their own dress at least in the US they typically do, so I'm assuming the same goes for groomsman. Is the tux or suit rental that expensive to make a fuss about? Can you shop around at different suit rental places? Try googling "wedding etiquite groomsman" and see what you find.

Guest · Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2005 1:54 pm Post subject:

it is the same in the UK, it is tradition for bridesmaids to pay for their own dress, it is seen as an honour to be asked and as said before, most people would be likely to get something new anyway. At least you're only hiring. I'm not sure but I think it's probably the same for groomsmen too. I would expect if invited to be a groomsman that I would have to pay also, although I'd prefer not, I wouldn't even question it.

RACHEL1982 · Posted: Tue Oct 02, 2007 11:55 am Post subject:

i have always been under the impression that the bride pays for the bridesmaid dress an not the bridesmaid

jinjin · FemaleFirst Guru Joined: 11 Oct 2006 Posts: 80968

It is left to the discretion of the bride and groom. Wedding etiquette does not require the bride and groom to cover the cost of bridesmaids and groomsmen wedding clothes. Hence, both bridesmaids and groomsmen may have to pay for their own wedding clothes.

General Guidelines... http://www.ourmarriage.com/html/who_pays_for_what.html

RACHEL1982 · Posted: Mon Oct 08, 2007 11:50 am Post subject:

i have been a bridesmaid 3times now, and i have never paid for anything, i also know of friends that have been bridesmaids and they have never paid for there dresses either, i have been asked to be a bridesmaid in 2009 and they are paying for the dress, when i get married in a few year, i wont expect my bridesmaids to buy there dresses.....it must be a north east of england thing.

Salsito · Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 11:24 pm Post subject:

Polgara69 · Posted: Wed Dec 05, 2007 10:11 pm Post subject:

I agree there. Also there is usually a niece or something of about 3 years of age who is a bridesmaid for the cuteness factor and they would find it hard to pay for their own! I had my 2 daughters and 2 sons at my wedding and paid for their outfits. I dont know anyone who paid for their own bridesmaids dresses!