I want a baby but how do i tell my boyfriend

[JusFyne]

My boyfriend and me have been in a relationship and living together for some time. and we are getting ready to move to another state to be closer to his 1st child. and we are talking about getting married. we recently had a scare that i might be pregnant. when i we found out that i was not pregnant we were both kind of upset. now we are on the discussion of if we want to have children together. i want a baby now but i dont know how to tell him. i dont to force him into something that hes not ready for yet.

[**Sam**]

I'm in the same position as you. I can't find the right time to ask. It's completely bananas. Last week I got the first two words of the question actually out of my mouth but he didn't hear anyway because he was out of earshot.

I've decided there's no point asking until I've been for a full health check and made sure I'm in a good, fit state to carry a child. I'm doing that this afternoon. Then I'll find a time to ask.

I've decided not to spring the question on him casually around the house or, God forbid, in bed when he's about to try and go to sleep. I think it's best to take him out for a meal or suggest a walk together and ask then, so at least he suspects me of wanting to talk about something.

Lucky you, though, you have a boyfriend who was disappointed when it turned out you weren't pregnant, so at least you know he's willing to be a father again. For all you know he's wondering how to ask you the same question!

[Guest]

if u cant ask him if hes ready for a baby then maybe u are not ready either.if u feel that u can not be open with ur b/f then why go into such a big thing with him.

[**Sam**]

if u cant ask him if hes ready for a baby then maybe u are not ready either.if u feel that u can not be open with ur b/f then why go into such a big thing with him.

I know he's ready for a baby, because we've talked about it before. What I'm trying to explain is that it's weird finding the right time to say 'so, shall we start making a family now?'. When do I drop it into conversation? Over dinner, over the washing up, in the supermarket, when I ring him at work? I'm just saying it's better to set aside a designated time for a serious chat, sometimes.

I like to think I'm ready to go into such a big thing with him, because we have been best friends for 12 years, lived together for 10, own a house together, can turn to each other in need, whatever the circumstances and are ready to bring new life into the world to share the happiness with. We earn enough to support a family and are both educated, well-adjusted and healthy, so it would be a bit defeatist to not to have a family just because we never sat down to decide when to do it. It's just a silly question of when to talk about it!

[krystlee]

my boyfriend jon and i were together for almost 3 year of high school then i brok up with him. i had a baby with someone else. then jon and i got back together he treated the baby as his own. then i left him again i was going though a lot of mental issuse. its been 2 years since then. We recently got back together. he and i both have kides from differnt relatioship and i want to have a baby with him we are planning to get married but i dont know if he want s to have a with me i love him and i really want to have a baby with him what should i do?