NO SUPPORT, HELP

[Lost]

I got pregnant at 19, i am now 21 my parents wanted me to get an abortion, or move just avoid the father of my child. I was confused. After much thought and discussion with my boyfriend,we decided that i would move to america with him where the majority of his family lives and get married. I had to drop out of university, and am awaiting a green card which allows me to work, go to school and drive, i have been waiting for it for 2 yrs apparently im to get it this yr. And with out it ive not been able to do anything but take care of my child. My husband works during the day and goes to school at night so i only see him for about 2 hrs a day if hes not trying to get sleep before going to school.When i got here i was very scared, a new place no family, no support, i was terrified. I met his family who seemed very nice. But since i met them have been giving me hell, do not like me at all. They havent taken the time to get to know me. And running me down is one of their favourite pastimes, when i have been nothing but nice to them. My husband says they dont have much to do, so gossip and putting people down is fun for them. It makes him angry, when i cry about it, or about not knowing anyone here, and not having my familys support. Am i being childish worrying about what they think of me, im just very lonely here, and dont know anyone, as i practically live in isolation. I dont talk to my parents about it, its better for them to think that im happy, and me not being able to handle this would make them think that im just childish or weak. I dont know what to do to not feel depressed, can anyone help me???

[Guest]

That sounds horrible! Have you no friends child?

Send a toy party invite to the neighborhood women or something. You're trapped at home eating your soul. Fresh air and a few good laughs is my prescription. If the hubby can't do it, find someone who can. And tell him that in those exact words.

ps. I am NOT talking about cheating here, I'm talking about fresh air and a few good laughs with friends.

[Squidge]

Hi Lost

All I can say is well done! I think you have been exceptionally brave and strong. Bearing in mind your parents put pressure on you, moving to another country and having a child. Well done

I found when I had my children I felt very alone for quite sometime, husband working all hours god sends so we had enough money etc. It will start to change as soon as you child is old enough to start playgroup. You will be able to find like-minded people and start to enjoy yourself, find yourself again and settle in.

It sounds as though your partner is really trying very hard to make sure that your families future is a bright one and although its very difficult at the moment it will get easier I am sure.

Don't feel as though you are childish, the feelings you have are your feelings and you need to deal with them and taking the step to talk to someone is a positive one.

You should be proud of yourself and try to look to the future.

[lost 2]

Thankyou

[P_1984d]

Do you want to live like this forever? I would just take the baby and go home!