my parents expect to much of me....

Alysje · Guest

Hi, My name's Liz. I just wondered if you could give me some advice. I get average grades at school. Yes i get bad grades too, but for my tests i try really hard and still i get a bad grade. I know it sounds like an excuse anyone would use, but for me it's not; really! Whe i show my grades to my parents they flip. Especially my mom. She says i can do much much better. To of my teachers one is math. She told me that she thinks that i am one of the few people who can't do math. She offered to help. but i bearly have time. When i tell my mom she siys it's an excuse! I just want them to see that this is my best and i can't do more then that.

Please help me, i don't know what to do.
I'm desperate!

-ALysje-

Obvious · Posted: Sat Feb 19, 2005 5:53 pm Post subject:

Tell your parents that they should love you without conditions (like you getting good grades). Until they can love & accept you regardless of the grades you get, you will find it more difficult to get good grades, cos of the pressure to perform.
I didn't do particulary well at school (20 years ago) I did much better at college & university after I left school. Some people are like that. I also know of people who were really intelligent (ie they didn't have to try at all to get good grades), yet they are lazy and just can't be bothered to make something of their lives... It cuts both ways.
School just does the basics, it gives a framework, that you can build on later.

cali

P_1984d · Posted: Sat Mar 26, 2005 6:19 pm Post subject:

All you can do is try your best. That should be good enough. My Mum was pretty much the same as yours, when I was doing my GCSE's, I was getting low grades like D -E's but when it came to the actual exams I ended up with B's and C's. I think the only thing you can do is study harder and do practice papers all the time. It helps. If you have coursework to do, get it in early, that way the teacher can mark it and hand it back so you can keep making it better. I was crap at maths, but I stuck it out. I eventually passed on my 5th attempt after spending 2 years at college and a maths tutor. I wasnt the studying type, I was always wanting to be elsewhere doing more fun things. I very much regretted it. I wanted to be a teacher but I never got the grades. Now Iam working at Safeway