What exactly do I do?

[Sofie]

This is rather long and may be slightly confusing.

Ok, it all started about 18 months ago, for some reason a so-called friend of mine started some silly rumour saying that I fancied X. I basically denied it and the person who started the rumour claimed he was only messing around. X turned round (I told him about the rumour) and told me that he was with someone he was happy with. I told him that if the rumour was true then he’d know about it by now. Nothing more was said about this until April last year when I finally told him that I was lying and did really fancy him. He basically said nothing – what I was expecting but didn’t want. I was hoping that was it – I didn’t really want anything to be said about this because of a similar experience I had a while back. I told him to just leave me alone and not to talk to me on MSN. Then one night I tried talking to him and he told me that what I was going through was normal, but does normally happen at a slightly earlier age. Then it became hard, told him what was going on and we ended up arguing. He then said something which he’d already implied months ago – ‘I don’t know what you expect from me but I probably can’t give it to you. And you know that.’ I didn’t like to admit it, but I knew he was right. Saw him the next day and he basically gave me some sort lecture. On & off for a while we were ok, just talking about music and football. Then it seemed to get hard again. I ended up basically telling him to stop rubbing it in that he was with someone he was happy with –it seemed like he was rubbing it in. For a while I decided it was a good idea to hide the way I really felt and tried to carry on like it was before all this happened.
We were ok for a few months then it started again. I asked X to basically leave me alone. He asked me why and I said something to him like ‘because of the stuff that I told you months ago.’ He just ignored what I told him. I asked him why he was doing this to me and he asked me why I was talking to him in this again. I asked X what he wanted/expected me to do. He told me that he’d already told me what to do. He told me he wanted me to ‘stop it’. I asked him what he meant and he told me to ‘use my head’. Just before he told me to do that I was about to tell him that I didn’t know what he meant. He obviously got the wrong idea and thought I was telling that I didn’t know how to use my head…
He asked me what I wanted and I told him tha i didn't know and even if I did, he couldn't give it to me. He then asked me if I had ‘some sort of fantasy’. I made the mistake of saying ‘not really’ instead of no. (I was lying – I did have one but didn’t tell him) He asked me what it was and I told him that I couldn’t remember and it doesn’t matter. X told me the reason for this is because what happens isn’t what I really want. He then said something like ‘you don’t want me, you want someone who likes your taste in music. But not me’. I told him that it’s impossible to find anyone (apart from him) who likes the same music as me. He said there’s a lot of people that like Indie and I told him that with the exception of him and perhaps a few more people, I can go up to anyone and mention a band to them and they’ll be like ‘Never heard of/How many of the bands that you’ve just mentioned actually exist or have existed?’
Spoke to X the next day and he apologised for what happen. He then asked me if I was ‘thinking straight’. I asked him what exactly he meant and he just said something like ‘oh, here we go again’ and ignored the question.
A few times I’ve nearly turned round and told him that everything’s getting too hard for me, but I know that if I do that, we’ll either argue or he’ll just ignore me like he always seems to do.
Several times I've had to force myself to actually try to talk to him about stuff that isn't anythign to do with this.
For some reason, it's too hard to talk to him and just as bad when we're not talking...
I've talked to a few friends of mine about this and all they ever say is 'don't talk to him. You know that it'll make moving on even harder for you'.

[StraightMale]

[Sofie]

Was talking to someone about this a while back and her answer was 'just go out with someone else'...

[Sofie]

Couple of questions:

Did he (X) have the right to say 'do you have some sort of fantasy?'

What's the difference between him asking that and saying 'Tell me, what do you want?'