Weird friendship, Help!

kona · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 29 Dec 2004 Posts: 8

ok, I need some advice. I am friends with a woman that i recently met. We are friends and that is it. Am I attracted to her?? YES!
I have no idea if she is bicurious. I enjoy her friendship but lately she has been really short with me. We used to talk alot and now hardly at all. When we do talk it is weird. Do you think she can tell I am attracted to her? Should I talk to her about this? Help!

lapin · You Go Girl (100+ Posts) Joined: 03 Dec 2004 Posts: 130

Maybe she is picking up on your feelings of stress/panic?

Try forgetting about the way you feel for a while, and just ENJOY being with her again. Maybe if you can relax things will take a more natural course Wink

Maybe she is attracted to you too, and that might be making HER confused.

Relax and enjoy the company, that's what I'd do first Smile

Lapin

Guest · Posted: Tue Jan 18, 2005 6:59 pm Post subject: Re: Weird friendship, Help!

DSTBLOVER · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 25 Feb 2005 Posts: 7

oh how i can sympathize with you! I've actually been friends with someone for close to 3 years, didn't really feel that "sexual" towards her, but we share a closeness that is very rare. Well the other night while we were Im'ing she brought things up, (alcohol of course) just about how it was enevitable that we would end up talking about things and that we have both been suffering. which is strange because i wasn't really, i think maybe it was her! My problem is that now she's got me feeling all tingles up my spine and i know it was probably just the alcohol talking for her. I HATE THAT. i mean, i know that alcohol helps us lose our inhibitions, but I feel the same whether i'm drinking or not. (the alcohol for me would just be to calm me for fear of being graded!)

How close are you two? Maybe you should get together for a few drinks (just to calm your nerves) not so your both totally wasted that you forget! Just tell her how you feel then and that if she does not feel the same way that you would still like to continue to be friends. Even if she doesn't feel the same way i'm sure she will be flattered! and who knows, maybe down the road you two could end up hooking up!! I wish you the best of luck!!