Confused and in desperate need of advice............

[Mya]

I hope you can help me - I have been secretly seeing a man from work, and we have been 'together' for almost 5 months. Trouble is, I love him deeply, even though we both said it would be a casual thing. He stays over most nights, but insists I drop him at work, and then arrive myself ten minutes later. He has told me I am very special to him, and at work he sends me romantic emails - 'how is work today my babe' etc.

My friend at work has told me she really fancies him, and they went for a drink the other night (which I didnt know about). When I asked him, he told me we werent exclusive, and he didnt want any ties. I dont understand thios man as he is so different with me when we are alone than when we are in public places and discussing relationship aspects. He even gets jealous as I am good friends with my ex husband, and he often comes round for drinks once a week and he asks me if I want him in my life if I keep seeing my ex.

I am just very confused and not sure if I should confront him and tell him what I want from him, or end it, although it would break my heart to do this. My ex has told me to leave him, but I dont know if he is just jealous. It doesnt help that my friend at work now thinks they are going to start a relationship and is constantly asking me for advice on how to seduce him.

[Sue]

He sounds like a really git. I would tell him were to get off, you should have told your mate there are then when she told you they'd been out that he had been seeing you and that hes a pig for treating you this way. Drop him like a ton weight he doesnt deserve you. You can do far better than him, I would let you mate know what shes in for but make sure she doesnt think your jealous. Move on and find someone who respects you he obviously doesnt other wise he wouldnt have wanted to go out with other people.

[Tom]

Sue is absolutely right. If you want sex he's probably a good bet, but if you want a relationship forget him.