Mother in Law - not sure what to do

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I am desperately looking for some advice.

My husband is an only child and his father died when he was quite young. His mother never remarried, never even attempted to meet anyone else and doesnt have any friends.
She has been a problem in my husbands life for as long as he can remember. Using him, speaking to him badly and has always disliked everyone he has ever dated.
Her and I have never gotten along and she has caused endless problems since day one. There are far too many for me to even go into.

After yet another incident a month ago I have spoken with my husband and decided to cut her out of my life completely. I have said that my husband is more than welcome to go and see her if and when he wants. My son (age 2) and I will not be going and she is no longer welcome in my home.

I try so hard to be a good person and a Christian but this woman brings out the very worst in me - literally ever single time I see her or hear her voice.

She has done so much damage and deserves the decision I have now made. But somehow I feel a little badly. I think it is because I somehow dont want myself to end up all alone like she has and feel that if I treat her badly that will be my punishment when I am older.

My husband totally agrees with my decision and supports me 100%. He has made it very clear that our son and I are his family and he will do everything he can to protect us.

What I am basically asking is whether there is anyone else that have cut off their mother in law or family members and although dont feel good about it - know that it was the right decision for them and their family??

Please email me on: davina_stander@yahoo.com

Regards
Dee

[xXx.Lesley.xXx]

It wasn't my mother in law but my father in law I cut out of mine and the kids' life almost a year ago. Like you, I said my fella can go and see him any time he wants but the kids go nowhere near.

Don't feel bad about it. Would you rather have your child growing up watchin a bad relationship with you and your mum in law, or grow up happy none the wiser. I know what I'd rather have.

After a while you will know that what you have done is for the best. You're only human, there is only so much crap you can take off one person.

Good luck, hope she doesn't turn into the mother in law from hell and start court procedings with you for grandparent rights like my father in law did to me