Paying for bridesmaids

MissAsh · Guest

Are bridemaids supposed to pay for their own dress and hair styling?

What are you having your bridemaids pay for?

Fatlisa · FemaleFirst Guru Joined: 11 Nov 2003 Posts: 1367

No bridesmaids don't pay for their hair to be done or their dresses, and while we are talking about they don't pay for shoes either and you are supposed to buy them a thank you gift for being a bridesmaid.

Linda191 · Guest

They should pay for thier own hair unless you want them all to have the same style, but you pay for the dresses

MissAsh · Guest

Guest · Posted: Mon Feb 07, 2005 8:53 am Post subject:

i dissagree, as i understand it the bridesmaids usually buy their own dress, as they get to keep it. if you are hiring it may be different tho. as for hair and stuff, same as has been said, if you insist on them having same hair and make up then you need to come to an agreement, but otherwise they do their own

Guest · Posted: Fri Feb 11, 2005 9:20 am Post subject:

its my understanding that bridesmaids normally pay for their own dresses and shoes as they then keep them. make up and hair depends on whether the bride insists on professional make up/hair in a certain style ( then she pays) or if they can arrange or do their own, within limits ( they pay) At sis's wedding we all had to pay everything ourselves, but the " gift" was matching earrings. i suppose if the bride chooses to make the dress the gift, or make up etc then that would work as well

Guest · Posted: Wed Mar 16, 2005 12:11 am Post subject:

The bridesmaids are suppose to pay for the dress. they should know that in accepting the position there will be financial responsibilities. If a bridesmaid is unable to afford it that is between her and the bride. If it is a special friend or sister the bride may understand and it may be important for this person to be a part of her day. In that case the bride may help out

xXx.Lesley.xXx · Posted: Wed Mar 16, 2005 12:23 am Post subject:

Well my bridesmaids are paying for their own dresses.

Im paying for the hair and make-up thats it

sweet bride · Guest

i don't know but i asked some friends and they say i must pay for everything to the bridemaids

Guest · Posted: Wed Jul 05, 2006 12:44 am Post subject: who pays..?

I would think its only fair to give something towards the cost of YOUR bridesmaid/s getting kitted out if you have a set theme, or at least a very nice gift (usually from the groom?) as a thank you..

otherwise, best save your cash, for YOUR do. I am sure most ladies can rustle up a suitable outfit by themselves (any excuse to shop!).

i understand the best man/men pay for their own outfits, though the new couple get them something.

ab123c · Posted: Thu Jul 06, 2006 11:35 am Post subject:

i was always under the impression that you paid for your bridesmaids dresses.
you decide what you want them to wear, and then provide them with it.
we paid for all our attendents outfits, after all - it was them doing us a favour, and why should they be out of pocket because i have expensive tastes and wanted them to wear outfits that they would never have bought for themselves otherwise.
i have only been a bridemaid twice, and both times my outfit was chosen and paid for by the bride and groom / parents of the bride.

wickedwitch · Posted: Tue Jul 11, 2006 11:50 am Post subject:

Ive been a bridesmaid to both my best friends and had to pay for my own dress, hair and makeup, she arranged for a Virgin Vie constultant to do it. Its part of the whole day doing it all together> Its a costly thing so the bride shouldnt have to pay for it all.

Guest · Posted: Wed Jul 12, 2006 2:17 am Post subject:

I guess it depends on where you live and what your social background is as well. I'm in the midwest North America and my bridesmaids paid for their dresses, shoes and hairstyles. My gift to them was the jewellry they wore with the outfits and no one had a problem with that arrangment. Yet I have a friend on the West Coast who paid for everything for her bridesmaids because that's what her upper class background dictated.

ab123c · Posted: Fri Jul 14, 2006 5:00 pm Post subject:

personally i would have felt cheeky expecting my bridesmaids to pay for outfits they were only wearing because i liked.
i would liken it to me deciding i would like my cleaner to wear a uniform, and expecting her to buy it herself.
i am not sure it is a class.social thing. thugh we are quite well off, we are not rich by any means. i also have friends who are not well off, and still paid for their bridesmaids dresses.

pink_femme · Posted: Fri Jul 14, 2006 7:28 pm Post subject:

My bridesmaids didn't pay for their dresses.

However, all of us (that's me and my bridesmaids) all chipped in to pay for the hairdresser on the morning and then a visit from a beautician at the house as we were getting ready.

I don't suppose there are any ground rules, this arrangement suited us but it may be different for others.